fallenglory

and so it goes...

6/22/2009
8:59 PM
Bunny:
hello

9:07 PM
.kristy:
hi

9:08 PM
Bunny:
I got your message
one question

9:08 PM
.kristy:
sorry, i was putting finn down for bed
sure

9:08 PM
Bunny:
why do you think I'm the reason he won't come see Finn?

9:09 PM
.kristy:
he said that you were uncomfortable with the fact that i was back
and he also said that he demanded you be there

9:09 PM
Bunny:
ok, well he isn't entirely comfortable being around children as you may know

9:10 PM
.kristy:
i just asked him to be alone to meet him for a bit so that there can actually be a bond between him and finn. i'm sure that you can understand with you and the kids around, the entire situation will be awkward for everyone..

9:11 PM
.kristy:
i'd just rather not have all that at once

9:11 PM
Bunny:
I understand completely. He is very uncomfortable with the whole situation
he wants you to come to our house with the baby.

9:12 PM
.kristy:
as am i, but the fact remains that if he really does want to be a part of his life, he's going to have to grow up a little bit

9:13 PM
.kristy:
i haven't asked anything of him through the pregnancy or the 5 months that finn as been on this earth. i never heard anything from him until he saw pictures of him.. and then again nothing.
i don't feel i should be the one inconvenienced anymore
i don't have a car anymore and i'm struggling to take care of my son
i don't have time to play games
i'm not trying to sound like a bitch, it's just a little frustrating

9:14 PM
Bunny:
Ok, look it was your decision to have this baby. Knowing damn well that he was not ready

9:14 PM
.kristy:
it was my decision not to kill a baby
and i just said, i never asked him for anything

9:14 PM
Bunny:
You should have thought about that before. If you are not able to take care of a child you should not have one

9:14 PM
.kristy:
i AM taking care of my child

9:14 PM
Bunny:
if you want a pity party you are looking in the wrong place

9:15 PM
.kristy:
that's why i've given up things
wow.

9:15 PM
Bunny:
hm. charity and welfare?

9:15 PM
.kristy:
hmm, no

9:15 PM
Bunny:
we could take better care of that baby

9:15 PM
.kristy:
why am i being attacked here?
he said he wanted to be a part of his life.
if he didn't, i wouldn't have bothered asking him to meet him

9:17 PM
Bunny:
I am not attacking you. I think its ridiculous that you can say that you are being inconvenienced
after the baby was born he tried to help out and you told him that the baby didnt need him
and now all of a sudden he does?
He wants to take care of the baby. He wants a relationship

9:18 PM
.kristy:
the reason i said that was because the message right before that was him denying that we even slept together
and... what i said, was that since he wanted to get a test done, until then, we were fine
and again. HE said he wanted to be there
i didn't come running to him

9:19 PM
Bunny:
Ok I really don't want to be in the middle of this. I have no idea what happened between you and him
I do know that as a mother I would do what is best for my child

9:19 PM
.kristy:
the only reason i messaged you was because he said you were the one that was awkward about it

9:20 PM
Bunny:
and I would learn how to compromise

9:20 PM
.kristy:
i have compromised
if he wants to see him, he can
if not, then fine
i'm not pushing him to do anything

9:20 PM
Bunny:
Yea, well I don't want anything to do with this. It is not my place to make decisions for him.
He is right here, why don't you two talk and work something out

9:21 PM
.kristy:
that's fine

9:22 PM
Bunny:
hello this is jeff

9:22 PM
.kristy:
hi
well i can see this is going places
look, i don't know what else to say at this point

9:23 PM
Bunny:
what can i do to get somewhere

9:24 PM
.kristy:
the question is where do you want to get?

9:24 PM
Bunny:
this is akward and i want to see him and be a part of his life

9:24 PM
.kristy:
you've jumped around on what you want to do and i understand that it's not the best situation

9:25 PM
Bunny:
i know but i what i know now is that i want to be there for him and have him in my life as i want to be in his

9:25 PM
.kristy:
i do understand that, but i don't want to play these games.. "i won't be there.... we didn't sleep together...i want to be there.."
ok
and we can do that

9:26 PM
Bunny:
so how can we arrange a meeting that is somewhat comfortable
i know im not comfortable to meet him in your home

9:26 PM
.kristy:
ok
i even suggested to meet you after work one day

9:27 PM
Bunny:
we can meet in a park

9:27 PM
.kristy:
i never said you had to come here anyway
that's fine.
but i would just rather it be you for now before bringing everyone else into the picture
that's all

9:28 PM
Bunny:
then we can do that, i want him in my whole life wich is christina and her kids as well

9:29 PM
.kristy:
i understand that... but one step at a time, please

9:29 PM
Bunny:
ok
then would this weekend be a good time?

9:30 PM
.kristy:
that will be fine

9:31 PM
.kristy:
so why don't you call or text me and let me know when is good for you and we can figure out which park.. does that work for you?

9:32 PM
Bunny:
that works

9:32 PM
.kristy:
ok
then you have a good night and i will talk to you later in the week

9:32 PM
Bunny:
k