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This has been on my mind for a while and I am just now writing about it. I think it is because I've truly had time to think about it, and it has come to pass that the mere thoughts have been rotting in my brain, so I'm just going to say it:
I don't know what the fuck is in the water lately, but people need to stop fucking whining, grow some balls, and make some serious life changes. Every day I am confronted with someone's jabbering about how their life is so fucking shitty and they just can't change it and blah fucking blah. Guess what. Everyone's life is shitty. Life, itself, is shitty. This is real life: its boring, its painful, and most of the time it fucking sucks because YOU won't do something to change it.
I am not a therapist. I am far from a therapist. Please don't bog me down with your problems, because I have my own. I'm not talking about general malaise, because I don't mind hearing about that kind of stuff, but case(s) in point:
*I have recently found out that a good friend of mine has been getting beaten by her boyfriend. This is unfortunate because 1. I like my wacky friend and do not want people to hit her; 2. I happen to like my friend's boyfriend, so it sucks that I have to write him off completely because I do not back people who hit their girlfriends because they're mad at the world, because daddy didn't hug them enough, or whatever; and 3. my friend is not brave enough to realize that she doesn't need to get beat up by someone who is supposed to love and respect her.
Once, a coworker laughed at me because I said I would not donate to battered women's shelters but would donate to pro- choice causes. My reasoning (which has changed a bit in the 4 years or so since this happened) was that it was the year 2003 and if women weren't smart enough to realize that they don't have to put up with getting hit, then that was their problem, not mine. (Now I feel as though a lot of people are not educated about these sorts of things, much like they aren't educated about safe sex and effectve birth control methods, but I still have a general disdain for people who let themselves get beat to a pulp because their significant other is having a bad day/week./life).
Now, plenty have people have said to this girl to just leave her boyfriend, but "she can't, she's scared." You know what? You're not going to be scared for long when you're in a coma, or fucking dead, because your boyfriend's car broke down or the baby won't stop crying or whatever. You are better off alone than with someone who beats you.
IF YOU ARE A GIRL AND YOUR BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND OR WHOMEVER IS HITTING YOU, GROW A PAIR AND SUCK IT UP AND BREAK UP AND SPEND SOME TIME ALONE AND THEN FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL APPRECIATE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.
*A lot of people I know have serious problems with drugs/ alcohol. I'm no hypocrite, and I have done my fair share of illegal substances in my days, but seriously, let's take a step back and look at things realistically. Stop running away from life by spending it in some fucked- up stupor. You are only hurting yourself and making everyone around you hate you. I'm serious. Grow up! You don't have to be a junkie! And if youre over the age of 21, you should not START being a junkie now. It's really not a cool way to live. My best friend died of a drug overdose; it sucked and I will never forgive her for it.
IF YOU HAVE A DRUG OR ALCOHOL PROBLEM, GET SOME HELP; THERE IS PLENTY OUT THERE FOR YOU. BECAUSE IF YOU DIE OF A DRUG OVERDOSE OR IN A DRUNK DRIVING ACCIDENT, A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE SERIOUSLY NEVER GOING TO FORGIVE YOU.
*If I have to hear one more person whine about how much they can't stand their partner because they are 1. a drunk, 2. a lowlife, 3. white trash, etc., I will scream. If you are so unhappy with your life that you have to go to sleep at 7 pm just so you don't have to deal with your boy or girlfriend, then you need to seriously reevaluate your life. I do not understand why so many people are spending so much time being miserable about stuff they can change; I at least spend my time being miserable about stuff I can't change, and I certainly don't alienate myself by complaining nonstop 24 hours a day that my husband doesn't look at me enough or whatever the fuck.
IF YOU DO NOT LIKE THE PERSON YOU ARE DATING, BREAK UP WITH THEM. THE WORLD WILL NOT END, TRUST ME.
This may seem really harsh, but seriously, I have said this all in small doses to the appropriate people and it just keeps building up. I just want everyone to be happy and healthy and not have so much freaking conflict in their lives.
To summarize: I do not support people who hit their partners or steal for crack or keep shitty boy/girl friends around for the sake of not being alone. I do not want to hear about these problems anymore. I'm sorry if you have a crappy life.
I am also sorry if you think this blog is directed at you, because trust me, it probably isn't. This is just a general summation of the way I am feeling about life lately.
This has been on my mind for a while and I am just now writing about it. I think it is because I've truly had time to think about it, and it has come to pass that the mere thoughts have been rotting in my brain, so I'm just going to say it:
I don't know what the fuck is in the water lately, but people need to stop fucking whining, grow some balls, and make some serious life changes. Every day I am confronted with someone's jabbering about how their life is so fucking shitty and they just can't change it and blah fucking blah. Guess what. Everyone's life is shitty. Life, itself, is shitty. This is real life: its boring, its painful, and most of the time it fucking sucks because YOU won't do something to change it.
I am not a therapist. I am far from a therapist. Please don't bog me down with your problems, because I have my own. I'm not talking about general malaise, because I don't mind hearing about that kind of stuff, but case(s) in point:
*I have recently found out that a good friend of mine has been getting beaten by her boyfriend. This is unfortunate because 1. I like my wacky friend and do not want people to hit her; 2. I happen to like my friend's boyfriend, so it sucks that I have to write him off completely because I do not back people who hit their girlfriends because they're mad at the world, because daddy didn't hug them enough, or whatever; and 3. my friend is not brave enough to realize that she doesn't need to get beat up by someone who is supposed to love and respect her.
Once, a coworker laughed at me because I said I would not donate to battered women's shelters but would donate to pro- choice causes. My reasoning (which has changed a bit in the 4 years or so since this happened) was that it was the year 2003 and if women weren't smart enough to realize that they don't have to put up with getting hit, then that was their problem, not mine. (Now I feel as though a lot of people are not educated about these sorts of things, much like they aren't educated about safe sex and effectve birth control methods, but I still have a general disdain for people who let themselves get beat to a pulp because their significant other is having a bad day/week./life).
Now, plenty have people have said to this girl to just leave her boyfriend, but "she can't, she's scared." You know what? You're not going to be scared for long when you're in a coma, or fucking dead, because your boyfriend's car broke down or the baby won't stop crying or whatever. You are better off alone than with someone who beats you.
IF YOU ARE A GIRL AND YOUR BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND OR WHOMEVER IS HITTING YOU, GROW A PAIR AND SUCK IT UP AND BREAK UP AND SPEND SOME TIME ALONE AND THEN FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL APPRECIATE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.
*A lot of people I know have serious problems with drugs/ alcohol. I'm no hypocrite, and I have done my fair share of illegal substances in my days, but seriously, let's take a step back and look at things realistically. Stop running away from life by spending it in some fucked- up stupor. You are only hurting yourself and making everyone around you hate you. I'm serious. Grow up! You don't have to be a junkie! And if youre over the age of 21, you should not START being a junkie now. It's really not a cool way to live. My best friend died of a drug overdose; it sucked and I will never forgive her for it.
IF YOU HAVE A DRUG OR ALCOHOL PROBLEM, GET SOME HELP; THERE IS PLENTY OUT THERE FOR YOU. BECAUSE IF YOU DIE OF A DRUG OVERDOSE OR IN A DRUNK DRIVING ACCIDENT, A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE SERIOUSLY NEVER GOING TO FORGIVE YOU.
*If I have to hear one more person whine about how much they can't stand their partner because they are 1. a drunk, 2. a lowlife, 3. white trash, etc., I will scream. If you are so unhappy with your life that you have to go to sleep at 7 pm just so you don't have to deal with your boy or girlfriend, then you need to seriously reevaluate your life. I do not understand why so many people are spending so much time being miserable about stuff they can change; I at least spend my time being miserable about stuff I can't change, and I certainly don't alienate myself by complaining nonstop 24 hours a day that my husband doesn't look at me enough or whatever the fuck.
IF YOU DO NOT LIKE THE PERSON YOU ARE DATING, BREAK UP WITH THEM. THE WORLD WILL NOT END, TRUST ME.
This may seem really harsh, but seriously, I have said this all in small doses to the appropriate people and it just keeps building up. I just want everyone to be happy and healthy and not have so much freaking conflict in their lives.
To summarize: I do not support people who hit their partners or steal for crack or keep shitty boy/girl friends around for the sake of not being alone. I do not want to hear about these problems anymore. I'm sorry if you have a crappy life.
I am also sorry if you think this blog is directed at you, because trust me, it probably isn't. This is just a general summation of the way I am feeling about life lately.
VIEW 4 of 4 COMMENTS
fatalconceit:
I have no idea how exactly i got here (through some tattoo recommendation you made) but I agree with the substance and spirit of what you're saying.
faint:
thank you!