What do you do if you have found the man who you want to have a family with and you want to be a part of his family?
What if you have spent two years with him?
You two have never really had a fight, minus a few small disagreements.
Except of course when one, or both, of you were drunk.
Then things could sometimes get out of hand.
He's slowly killing himself with his drinking.
You've moved on with your life: cleaned up, started school(and your career) again, got out of debt
He's moved on, in that he started sleeping with his co-worker
But after 6 months you still think about him daily.
You can't think of anyone else, you've tried to be with other people, but you would rather be with him.
You still want him to be the father to your children.
And you think he still loves you too.
But he says it's better for you two not to be together.
He says you need to move on.
You honestly try. But you can't shake the feelings of guilt when you're with another man.
What do you do when the person who completes you needs help fighting addiction and you thought leaving would get them in the right direction--and it didn't seem to?
What if they still complete you, and in the brief moments you're together or talking to them again, you finally feel normal and any other time you feel like a husk who's going through the motions of life, waiting, for... SOMETHING...But you don't know what.
What do I do?
What if you have spent two years with him?
You two have never really had a fight, minus a few small disagreements.
Except of course when one, or both, of you were drunk.
Then things could sometimes get out of hand.
He's slowly killing himself with his drinking.
You've moved on with your life: cleaned up, started school(and your career) again, got out of debt
He's moved on, in that he started sleeping with his co-worker
But after 6 months you still think about him daily.
You can't think of anyone else, you've tried to be with other people, but you would rather be with him.
You still want him to be the father to your children.
And you think he still loves you too.
But he says it's better for you two not to be together.
He says you need to move on.
You honestly try. But you can't shake the feelings of guilt when you're with another man.
What do you do when the person who completes you needs help fighting addiction and you thought leaving would get them in the right direction--and it didn't seem to?
What if they still complete you, and in the brief moments you're together or talking to them again, you finally feel normal and any other time you feel like a husk who's going through the motions of life, waiting, for... SOMETHING...But you don't know what.
What do I do?
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I was raised by alcoholics. My grandfather died at the age of 52, my parents have restraining orders against each other, my mother kicked me out when I was in high school and the alcoholic trend has followed suit to my two brothers. My first boyfriend's father was a recovered alcoholic and some of my closest friends are ex heroin and meth addicts.
I understand the beast.
I grew up fast.
I may be 23 but I think I know exactly what I want for the rest of my life. You may think I'm being a silly kid, but when I sit down and talk to a stranger the inevitably ALWAYS ask my age because I seem older than I look. They always think I'm 27-32...
I know I do not need someone to "complete" me. That was a remnant of cliche.
But I DO believe that there are a few people in the world who are your "other half" you bring out the best in them and they the best in you.
Most people right now will stop me and say I didn't bring out the best in him: but I did, for a while. He was sober for quite some time with me. And he wants change. He knows there is a problem and wants to get better.
I hope things work out for you...