Everyone told me to take er easy, not to call him and I agreed, I thought I'd give it a week.
He's been out of work for three weeks, he has no money. Last week I had offered to help him pay for rent which he graciously accepted stating that, "he wanted to ask, but didn't want to ask."
Today, being the first of the month I knew he had to do something about that rent. I know that he would never call me and ask for it after all of this, would rather take the heat from his landlord than accept failure. I called him.
I did it in a very particular way though. When he picked up the phone I asked for the sexy young man who hurt his knee, which he quite appropriately replied with that he wasn't around but that he would take a message. I continued, telling him that there was a beautiful girl here who wanted to give him a message. Then I proceeded to offer "her" help in paying his rent and invite him out for appies and drinks some day before the 11th. He said that the young man would be interested in the drinks and would call her.
I think the playfulness, the flirtations, non-direct and non-intruding nature of the call was perfect for the current situation. He told me to take it easy and relax when I asked what to do about this situation, just like last time we fought/broke up. I'm taking it easy. I'm there for him if he needs it, I let him know I'm thinking of him, and I make open ended plans. I'm being that friend who's interested in being more. And really that's what I am right now.
I'm working a lot on myself, and my novel! And I'm not going to stress about this. If it works out it works out and if it doesn't, it wasn't meant to be. Maybe I will take a trip or do something completely new and random.
Regardless of what happens I'm learning a lot about myself, Clint, relationships, life... Experience is key.I'm feeling very hopeful.
He's been out of work for three weeks, he has no money. Last week I had offered to help him pay for rent which he graciously accepted stating that, "he wanted to ask, but didn't want to ask."
Today, being the first of the month I knew he had to do something about that rent. I know that he would never call me and ask for it after all of this, would rather take the heat from his landlord than accept failure. I called him.
I did it in a very particular way though. When he picked up the phone I asked for the sexy young man who hurt his knee, which he quite appropriately replied with that he wasn't around but that he would take a message. I continued, telling him that there was a beautiful girl here who wanted to give him a message. Then I proceeded to offer "her" help in paying his rent and invite him out for appies and drinks some day before the 11th. He said that the young man would be interested in the drinks and would call her.
I think the playfulness, the flirtations, non-direct and non-intruding nature of the call was perfect for the current situation. He told me to take it easy and relax when I asked what to do about this situation, just like last time we fought/broke up. I'm taking it easy. I'm there for him if he needs it, I let him know I'm thinking of him, and I make open ended plans. I'm being that friend who's interested in being more. And really that's what I am right now.
I'm working a lot on myself, and my novel! And I'm not going to stress about this. If it works out it works out and if it doesn't, it wasn't meant to be. Maybe I will take a trip or do something completely new and random.
Regardless of what happens I'm learning a lot about myself, Clint, relationships, life... Experience is key.I'm feeling very hopeful.
vanceowen:
You rule!!!