dubleohdredloks

it depends on what's acceptable in the relationship.
and if you lie about it.

i've been in completely open relationships, relationships where anything other than intercourse was ok, and relationships where a kiss was considered cheating. it's whatever the two of you are comfortable with.

and no double standards - if you can do it then so can she (and the other way around)

it all depends. It is if you are disrespecting the terms of the relationship.