So another co-worker died last week. This is getting kind of silly. I didn't know her. I don't know any of her family, but I do know her girlfriend. She works with me as well. We're pretty friendly, but I'm not exactly gonna make her godmother of my firstborn, y'know? I don't know how long they were together, but it can't have been more than about six or seven months, because before that, she (the girlfriend, not the deceased) was dating another friend of mine. I think they were pretty serious, all the same.
So here's the dilemma. I just got off work. The funeral is two hours away. I do not fancy spending two hours in a car in the miserable weather and weekend traffic to go to this funeral for a person I do not know that was dating a person I do not know all that well, then stand in the rain at a cemetary for a half hour, just to turn around and come back. So I've done some thinking. If the tables were turned, I would not at all expect to see this person at my significant other's funeral. Actually, I would be quite shocked. However, it would mean a lot to me to see them there. My roomate is going, 'cause he's pretty close with the girlfriend. Closer than I am, anyway. He also did not know the deceased. I probably wouldn't be driving.
So I have no idea if I should go or not. I've been to so many bloody funerals in the last few months it's insane. I don't want to do another one. Something tells me I'll feel guilty if I don't, though. Hmm. Suggestions?
So here's the dilemma. I just got off work. The funeral is two hours away. I do not fancy spending two hours in a car in the miserable weather and weekend traffic to go to this funeral for a person I do not know that was dating a person I do not know all that well, then stand in the rain at a cemetary for a half hour, just to turn around and come back. So I've done some thinking. If the tables were turned, I would not at all expect to see this person at my significant other's funeral. Actually, I would be quite shocked. However, it would mean a lot to me to see them there. My roomate is going, 'cause he's pretty close with the girlfriend. Closer than I am, anyway. He also did not know the deceased. I probably wouldn't be driving.
So I have no idea if I should go or not. I've been to so many bloody funerals in the last few months it's insane. I don't want to do another one. Something tells me I'll feel guilty if I don't, though. Hmm. Suggestions?
good luck sweetie!
Here's that thread I was talking about last week. It appears someone just commented on it so it was towards the beginning of them.