doctashock

So, for those of you who are still unaware... I have a girlfriend now. Yes the perpetually single docta of shock has allowed himself to be claimed and I suppose a diatribe is in order.

When I say that I have a girlfriend, I don't speak of someone I have sex and hang out with a lot. That's cool and all, but as you all know, if that's what I wanted I could have found someone who fit that bill a long time ago. No, this is someone who I want to plan my life with. Someone I have to consider and consult before making major life decisions. Someone who I have decided to arrange my priorities around. And if you guys know anything about me you know that it's hard to distract me from a goal once I set my mind to it. Luckily this girl seems to want all of the same things I want out of life... to an uncanny extent.

Now comes the tricky part. It's a long distance thing. Like seperate countries long distance. Luckily it's only Mexico, so it's only about as far away as back home, but still the concept of a border is still there. In spite of this fact however... there are weeks where I feel like we practically live together. If we're at home we're online together and talking about everything we did on a particular day. If we're out and about we text each other back and forth. I wake up and she's here, I come home from hanging out with my friends and she's here. Normally I might find that a little suffocating, but actually here it works the opposite way. If I don't hear from her for a while I feel like I've stopped breathing. This girl has become a major part of my life and well, I haven't even touched her yet.

Yeah... about that. I never really considered internret dating before. In fact I had always been of the school of thought that an LDR could never work unless there was a history behind it that wasn't long distance. As in you once lived in the same place and then someone moved away. This girl has changed my mind about all of that, and I've found out that our situation is really not all that uncommon. One of my coworkers who has been married for years and has 2 kids met her husband online... and her brother has a pregnant wife overseas. Of course there's the infamous SG couple of unraveled and MisterSatan, who are now living together very happily. So I know of examples where it's worked. I think the thing that really changed my mind about the whole concept of dating someone from afar though was reading this bit of dialogue.

I mean it's not like we started talking with the intentions of hooking up. I just thought I was making a friend... and then the more and more I talked with her... the more and more I realized what an amazing person she is. And then what started as a joke about running down on a whim to hang out, became not so unfeasible.. and then we realized we would be meeting each other soon anyway. Then I started thinking about the possibility of just running into someone else like her out on the street, and I innocently asked what her thoughts were about long distance relationships. Apparently she had been having a lot of the same thoughts I was... who knew? She even asked her mom about it... who doesn't object to the concept as much as one might think amazingly enough.

From there things just started to fall into place so perfectly it was hard to deny some sort of fate in action. Pardon my esoteric ramblings, but I do have some small belief in reincarnation, and I'm becoming more and more convinced that she and I have known each other several lifetimes before. We're too like minded not to have developed some of this previously. I believe that's the concept of a soulmate. Correct me if I'm wrong.

This is not going to be easy though. She's a rather popular girl, and well it's the springtime and I live in a city of lonely souls and glamorous females. It wasn't until recently that I discovered that apparently the female gender finds me somewhat attractive in general. Up until now I thought I had been getting by on my charm (which is a hard thing to turn off btw). So let's just say I've been tested... a lot. I wish I could say I aced all my exams with flying colors, but that'd be lying. The point is I did pass though and I don't keep secrets from her. She's very understanding and it's part of why I love her. I'm sure there will be a lot more of these tests though before I can graduate, but all I have to do to remember the answers is think about the wonderful person who has their faith in me and I think I can get through anything.

So who is this young lady you ask? Well if I didn't tell you already, or you haven't picked up on the couple of clues that have been lying around, I'm dating the lovely explosiveorchid. For those of you in LA... she'll be here at the end of April/beginning of May for about a week. Maybe we'll venture out for a meet and greet or something. I believe I'm truly in love with this girl and if things go according to plan the next two years will be hard, but amazing for both of us... at the end of which we'll be able to be together all of the time.

I'm just glad I found her when I did, because I'm sure that if the personal gains I just got wind of come through it will be hard to tell who my real friends are pretty soon. Don't worry, if you're down with me know it will continue to be that way. Of course I don't want to get to far ahead of myself just yet, but if you think you know what I'm talking about, then you probably do. Cineman knows what I'm talking about for sure.

Anyway... feel free to go say hi to my lady and tell her what a big mistake she's making for hooking up with me. Maybe you can make her change her mind before it's too late.