Sexually I love to be submissive. But dont get me wrong I would grab your face in a second and tell you to calm the fuck down.
SO what I think is "an issue for me", or the way I see it "an issue for others", is my unwillingness to allow my, imaginary, partner to have final say of my decisions. I've been told many times, "I do what I want anyway", when it comes down to discussing my life. And I feel like if its not coming from a place of disrespect then, what I truly want I will truly work hard for and get.
I don't see it as selfish. I see it as in many years I will be able to say that I lived the way I wanted. I was able to be 100% Me .