So I'm having a little delima.....I can't go out and drink with all the meds I'm on and all the other medical shit I have going on.....But the girl I've been w/for 2 yrs can. Granted we "broke up" over some really stupid shit a few weeks ago, but she still lives here to help take care of me, can go out, but I mean she will at least not drink around me when we're out. I feel bad asking her not to go get shitty drunk and things like that when she goes out. Is it me or should she maybe just not do it outta respect for me...(I mean part of my accident was the fact I had been drinking but had sobered up for a few hours but was still so tired from working four jobs I still fell asleep )I really think that is a huge reason why we're not back together....Now since according to her we're not together(even though we do everthing we have alwaya done) I don't have a say in what she does BUT yet I can't talk to or see certain people because she she gets soo pissed off....hhmmmmm
it just gets frustrarting. I cannot wait till i can get walking again or at least a little more independent.....I hate HAVING to have someone to take care of me....
I talked to one of my old friends a few nights ago and it cheereds me up but it really made me sad too..... i miss hanging out w/all my friends.... i will again though...
it just gets frustrarting. I cannot wait till i can get walking again or at least a little more independent.....I hate HAVING to have someone to take care of me....
I talked to one of my old friends a few nights ago and it cheereds me up but it really made me sad too..... i miss hanging out w/all my friends.... i will again though...
On ther other hand, don't bring it up with her when you are pissed, or when she is already drunk. Wait until you are both sober and in a good mood, and then bring it up to her.
Also, you might want to consider trying to find someone else to help you out a couple of nights a week. There is nothing more dangerous than trying to have one person do all your care without a night off. She should still be able to have her time to go out and party. If she doesn't, she will wind up resenting you and it could completely destroy your relationship.
I hope I am not butting in, just figured a little advice would be welcome, I have been dealing with the care provider situation for about 16yrs now, and there is an art to it. Some of what I said may be irrelevant to your situation, I am not sure what your exact disability is, so forgive me if I have made assumptions that aren't warranted.