When will the madness end, When will the olive branch be extended so that we can let the feeling of resentment go. I never intend to hurt others but it's always a natural reaction to my human condition. You see me happy and get mad. I see you happy and act like I don't care. I tell myself that it doesn't matter but deep down it always does. I'm hoping for more time to pass before I can look you in your eyes and say hello. It was fun while it lasted. It was great being your everything but I never listened to the warning signs. I never understood how different we actually are. I bent my perspective because I felt like it was my responsibility to love you back. I forced myself to open up. I acted selfish for the first part of the relationship, then when I came around it was to late. You were gone. Back and forth it went until a life changing experience made me realize how futile life can be, chasing after something that was never destined to become true love.
Love should not be forced or manipulated, It should be spontaneous and natural. Two humans revolving around each other with the same idea about life and love. There is always room to grow and become stronger but if it's forced from the beginning I see nothing but disaster. If one person loves more then the other then it will end bad. If you try hard to win someone back that is hurt, you may set up yourself for rejection. ---me
"the lover... wants to be loved by a freedom but demands that this freedom as freedom should not longer be free. He wishes the others freedom should determine itself to become love and this not only in the beginning of the affair but at each instant and at the same time he wants this freedom to be captured by itself, to turn back on itself as in madness, as in a dream, so as to will its own captivity.
-Jean Paul Sartre
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Possession and dependency are the themes of many relationships. Free beings become each others prisoner and neither is going to be happy. The desire of lovers to possess each other exclusively is a potentially self-destructive pact that may lead to death, metaphorically and symbolically, or in actual fact.
There is an alternative to the free choice of a mate and that is "fate". Lovers often believe that their encounter had to be; there was no choice. We are soul mates. We have to get married. God and the universe declare this match was made in heaven. No one else can be considered a potential mate. This fateful version of mating is delusional but appears to solve the paradox of freedom leading to bondage by removing freedom from the equation. Fate can be a cruel tyrant and fateful lovers may become prisoners in their own story.
Sartre's idea of a free unattached individual is idealistic and a more realistic view recognizes that seldom are lovers free unattached beings, but rather, each lover is a member of one or more social groups. The apparently free individual has a family, friends and others who will intrude into the budding romance sooner or later.
http://www.personadigital.net/Persona/I_and_Thou/existential_love.htm
Love should not be forced or manipulated, It should be spontaneous and natural. Two humans revolving around each other with the same idea about life and love. There is always room to grow and become stronger but if it's forced from the beginning I see nothing but disaster. If one person loves more then the other then it will end bad. If you try hard to win someone back that is hurt, you may set up yourself for rejection. ---me
"the lover... wants to be loved by a freedom but demands that this freedom as freedom should not longer be free. He wishes the others freedom should determine itself to become love and this not only in the beginning of the affair but at each instant and at the same time he wants this freedom to be captured by itself, to turn back on itself as in madness, as in a dream, so as to will its own captivity.
-Jean Paul Sartre
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Possession and dependency are the themes of many relationships. Free beings become each others prisoner and neither is going to be happy. The desire of lovers to possess each other exclusively is a potentially self-destructive pact that may lead to death, metaphorically and symbolically, or in actual fact.
There is an alternative to the free choice of a mate and that is "fate". Lovers often believe that their encounter had to be; there was no choice. We are soul mates. We have to get married. God and the universe declare this match was made in heaven. No one else can be considered a potential mate. This fateful version of mating is delusional but appears to solve the paradox of freedom leading to bondage by removing freedom from the equation. Fate can be a cruel tyrant and fateful lovers may become prisoners in their own story.
Sartre's idea of a free unattached individual is idealistic and a more realistic view recognizes that seldom are lovers free unattached beings, but rather, each lover is a member of one or more social groups. The apparently free individual has a family, friends and others who will intrude into the budding romance sooner or later.
http://www.personadigital.net/Persona/I_and_Thou/existential_love.htm