devilboy666

Observations and Revelations.. This is what "IT" is all about... Please read on...

Self-respect isnt about being selfish, it's about doing what's best for your soul & Integrity.

Relationsships are investments of energy, time, money and thoughts. They should grow with time. Some people suck the life out of us ( Leeches, users, abusers), in this case they are bad investments.

If you are unhappy with your life, find out where & make efforts to change it. You cant wait around to be happy or for someone/ something to make you happy. Happiness comes from contentment with your own life. If you're unhappy as it is, nothing will make you happy.

You cant give water if the well is dry. Translation: You cant give to others, love others if you cant do that for yourself. If you cant be happy as a single person or in your own skin, You'll never be happy with anyone. This can also relate to over-commitment to others or work.

Self esteem is'nt necessarily based on praise or looking good, It's the feeling you get from accomplishment, looks come and go and you dont need anyone to validate you.

Bitterness & Anger are natural emotions, but they dont change a thing. They actually hinder us from learning and dealing with hardships.

What does'nt kill us makes us Bitter, but also stronger and wiser.

Sometimes we have to take the blame for bad things that happen to us b/c we often overlook Red Flags & enable these things to happen, In this case. we must learn from them & forgive others.

You know you can do better, DO Better ..

Never go to bed angry over a dispute with loved ones, resolve arguments ASAP. Festering anger is the seed of resentment.

The sole sourse of arguments are often forgotten, however hurtfull words always linger. Choose your words carefully.

There is no right way to one thing.

Alcohol, Drugs, Food and ecsesive spending are several ways to medicate yourself or avoid dealing with issues and emotions. In the end they hurt you even more and dont solve a thing.

Love safely "Safe Love" is: head, gut and heart in this order. Common sense, your intuitive instinct and you emotions. Emotions alone can blind you from better judgement.

If it looks like shit, smells like shit and floats like shit it's probably shit ! Listen to yourgut always, you know what's right for you. also, dont put lipstick on a pig & try to call it something else.. Bullshit is Bullshit.

You cant change anyone in a relationship, they need to change themselves. What you see is usually waht you get.

Some people are possesive, not loving. They like having control ovewr the other people but are incapable of loving anyone but themselves, They deprive you of love. They are usually Ex-Lovers that come crying back when they think you are over them. Seeing you with someone else is a sign of losing control, They react in fear. Shortly after you realize things have not changed. They wont love you and wont allow you to love someone else too. it is a control issue.

Love is not a word, it's in verbs. Actions always speak louder than words.

Jealousy taints the soul.. Adapt and embrace the qualities you admire.

Dedication, Consistancy and Perserverabce are what take you anywhere. (goals)

Lifes winks at you if you're paitient enough to look and listen. Hidden blessings in disguise are often leesons or new oppurtunities.

Friendships, respect, loyalty, shared beliefs and trust are the foundation for building anything solid in love.

If sometihing seeds and is born in deciet, it usually ends in deciet. If a relationship spawns from infidelity it ends in infidelity. If someone is unfaithful when you meet them, they're usually unfaithful. The future conclusion is usually right under your nose, If you can see past the denial.

Your friends are a reflection of you and they're usually an indicator of what to expect from others. If you're getting to know someone and want to know how they might act in the future.. Just look at those around them.

We show people how to treat us by accepting or not accepting behaviuor. people will respect you if you demand respect. If they dont like that, They were'nt your friends to begin with.

Love does'nt hurt. Not only does it not hurt physically, it does'nt hurt you either.

Being appreciative or thoughtful of others is the greatest display of affection.

Love is'nt demanding or selfish, sometimes you have to let go. If it comes back it's always worth much more. Somethings are not meant to be.

Kharma is a real thing. What goes around will eventually come around. A few good actions go a long way. It helps to build your legacy and leave a small mark on this world.

Life can beat you up enough as it is, Dont join in by beating yourself up with self-defeating thoughts. You are your own worst enemy. Sometimes it's better to not pay attention to every little thought in your head, it's not truth, it's insecurity. Your own head can make you crazy.

Sex out of a loving relationship is just that, Sex and nothing more. It never adds up to much.

Piut your best face forward by being who you want to be, not waiting to become those things.

Integrity is not only sticking to your ethics but being a person of your word.

You are what you eat, really. peptides are the building blocks of life.

Stress takes years off your life, this is true and based on science. Have a hobby, or doing a habitual thing that makes you happy to keep your mind off the things that stress you out & you often cant change anyway.

Dont seek outside a relationship to fix it, Dont Cheat you Dummys. Niether party usually works out, the relationship or the "Other" person. You replace one with another and carry your baggage into the next relationship and never dealing with the underlying issues.

Relationships are like plants, they need continual input to work from both parties. People are too quick to throw in the towel when things get rough instead of stepping up & making changes. A lot of problems boil down to errors of communication & assertiveness. Relationships are just "great" own their own but they have the potential to become Really Great.

People tell you who they are if you listen good enough, "oh I'm a asshole.. or God, I hate you" it's said in joking manner but often it's the truth. It's more a Fruedian slip.

Tit for Tat is a stupid, petty and wasteful game. Vengefulness ends up making you look like a even bigger asshole. Sometimes it's better to be the better person and walk away. Sometimes brushing someones words off enrages them more than retaliating. Iam not saying it's ok to let people step on you or be passive aggressive, just call them on it & that's it. Make them an example of what not to be, dont be a Douche bag to fight a Douche bag.

Like one of my favorite novles, "Brave New World" a life spent avoiding pain is like the living dead. You're waliking around but you're dead inside.. A life emotionless would'nt be enjoyable. Sure, sadness and pain are emotions we dont enjoy but they are essential. How are you to aprecieate love if you cant contrast it with pain? How do you know a good thing if you have nothing to compare it to? You cant avoid pain or getting hurt or used by people, give it up. However, you can use these situations as lessons in seeking out better ones in the future.

Some of the best advice for dealing with others is what we learned in Kindergarten remember " dont judge a book by it's cover". and my fave " treat others as we want to be treated" it's simple stuff that people teach thier kids but still dont live by.

Truly giving is giving without expecting anything in return...

I hope you take away something from this. These are things I have been dealing with and came to these conclusions too.. Good Luck..