denverkitty

I'm going to bitch about men right now... So if you don't want to hear it, don't read this.

I have been on the dating scene plenty of times in my life. I would say since I hit the age where I actually knew what a penis was and the magical powers it possesses, I have stayed single probably 85% of that time.
Don't get me wrong. I love men. I am surrounded by a male populace most days of the week, and I have mostly male friends.
But here's where my complaints derive from...

There are so many types of males. So many personalities. Some guys are rugged. Some guys are metrosexual... I don't care... But can they learn to communicate!!!! NO.
I'm going to begin with my most recent endeavours.
My most recent ex boyfriend was great at almost everything. He was a cocky asshole who was sure of himself and what he wanted and I loved it. But when anything about his past or how he grew up came up, it was like a full on heist mission for me to get a single thing out of him. Why did he shut down? I don't know. I do know he has suffered some shitty things in life (from prying) and maybe he didn't want to talk about it... But you know what? I'm a woman. I loved him. I wanted to fucking TALK ABOUT IT.
Eventually, as you know, we broke up... why? LACK OF COMMUNICATION.

Moving on to my most recent fuck buddy... He was amazing. I loved having sex with him. I loved hanging out with him. I loved just being around him. I loved that there was absolutely no commitment and that we had no drama.... But then... He became distant. He didn't want to have sex. He would want to hang out but acted really off anytime we did. He introduced me to his family and when I mentioned how awkward that was due to my FWB situation with him, he got even more distant. In the beginning of this short casual encounter situation, we discussed solely being FWB's... And that seemed okay with everyone... Later, I questioned his intentions with introducing me to his family and also doing little things (but huge when you're an overthinker like me) such as kissing me on the forehead as I slept... Or rubbing my back... Or running his fingers through my hair... or being totally openly affectionate in front of everyone... Or doing favors... Or sending cute messages.... That screamed to me that he wanted more, but when I approched him about it .... HE SHUT DOWN. No communication whatsoever. He eliminated me from his life for asking a simple question: WHAT DO YOU WANT. Why did this happen? LACK OF COMMUNICATION.

Moving on to the dude that I recently started "dating" (which is, going on dates with)... I am pretty sure he is either socially inept or just nuts, but this guy is TOO open with his feelings... One day into meeting this guy and he is telling me that I am the girl for him... Cool I suppose. Two days in, he is telling me how much he has fallen for me and he wants this to last forever... Little shocking, but I give him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he just had a lapse in judgement and maybe the booze was talking... Three days in and this mother fucker is telling me he is whipped and starts talking about marriage and kids! PEACE OUT.... I had to just straight up lay down the law and tell him that he is WAYYYYY too into me for knowing me for literally 72 hours. Why did this happen? TOO MUCH COMMUNICATION.

Is it too much to ask for that there is some kind of middle ground? A guy who is comfortable enough expressing himself and his thoughts without being a total crazy pants? I feel like there are mature men out there who are worth my time and won't play these silly games... I understand men and women express themselves and communicate differently... but what gives??? Can't you just say what you are thinking and stop hiding behind a mask? Everyone has a past. Everyone has baggage. Yes, we all would like to leave it there, but holding your past against others will only create issues... Communication is key. being closed up because you've been hurt or whatever before is soooooo lame.