Tough Times

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"Lately I have a hard time waking up, I suppose it is normal with everything that is happening right now in the world. But I'm really worried!

My job will allow the company I work for to close the business. From next month I will not have a job to return to, finishing the quarantine. I feel a pressure on my chest every time I...
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avrora:
I love the idea of this! We are strong community when we are together, thank you for doing this SuicideGirls!
kitsu:
Itā€™s really hard to read without crying... Iā€™m really sorry! Itā€™s a really nice and supportive way youā€™re creating! Thanks you šŸ™šŸ»šŸ’–

Relationship Communication

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Iā€™ve been with my partner for about 7 months. I love spending time with him and could see a future for us, but our love languages donā€™t align perfectly and sometimes I feel like Iā€™m not receiving as much affection as I need. I donā€™t want to come off as clingy, how do I communicate my needs without scaring him off?

Responding SG: @coolicio

Hello...
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agent_easy:
Great advice, also for the guys here šŸ˜Š
blackdread13:
I agree. Hope this great advice helps her

Staying Confident

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"I am an aspiring model, and I often struggle with the rejection youā€™re bound to face in this career. How do you stay confident in such a vulnerable career?ā€

Responding SG: @midnight

Aspiring Model,
To me, confidence is a journey not a destination. Like many things it requires work. As a more experienced model, although less frequent, I still find times when my confidence...
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babiilove:
I hope so!!!
daydream:
@midnight love youuu šŸ˜˜

Caught Between Friendships

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"I have two really great friends and I love them both soooo very much! ..but....they hate each other! They were friends at one time and had a big falling out.. they go back and forth on social media at each other and i see it all cause I'm friends with them both. They are always asking me questions about the other. I was pretty much...
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dhyani:
I will gladly join the ā€œstanding ovationā€ here, @eirenne! This is a VERY difficult situation, and you handled it perfectly with the most elegant and eloquent kid gloves possible. šŸ’—šŸ‘šŸ‘šŸ‘
fullfeeling:
I like @eirenne's suggestions, but seems like there's a key point you didn't discuss: the nature of their falling out.Ā  In general when I hear about this kind of thing I just think that two friends need to grow up, and most of the time that's true.Ā  Some of that is what Eirenne is getting at - that they're both responsible for not fanning the flames.Ā  Or if they enjoy the drama, they need to keep you (and others) out of it.Ā  But there's at least one circumstance where none of that applies, and that's if one of them inarguably did the other one dirty in a big way.Ā  I had an experience like that, where had I chosen to prosecute it could have been criminal, and had I chosen to tell all I would have burned this friend's social life to the ground.Ā  In that case, of the few friends who knew the whole story, some just chose me because they weren't as fond of her after what they'd learned.Ā  I'm still puzzled by the few who have stayed on equal terms with us because I couldn't remain friends with her if she'd done these things to anyone else.Ā  I'm puzzled, but because I don't want the drama, I don't push it.

Overcoming Anxiety

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"For awhile I have struggled with paranoia and anxiety. I find it hard to go through everyday actions sometimes and I have used many crutches. After I overcame crippling addiction to some less than savory products, I still find I remain with the original problem....Any suggestions of what I could try that might make this a little easier?"

Responding SG: @missy

Hello there! It can...
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fullfeeling:
@sdpritchard - @missy had some great points, but you give my #1, which I summarize as "Don't believe everything you think."Ā  It's easier said than done, but you can turn the natural inclination of the anxious mind to analyze everything to your advantage here by turning that critical overdrive on your anxieties themselves rather than on the stuff that's triggering anxiety.Ā  Rather than peer deeply at every little aspect of everything to find the threat in it, know that one of your greatest threats is anxiety itself and dissect THAT.Ā  Few things survive such dissection.
chroi:
really helpful, good advice @missy and I agree identifying the problem is a gigantic step in the right direction. I wish the person who posted this issue, all the best on their journey xx šŸŒ¹ā¤

Finding Yourself Again

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"As a mom I'm totally wrapped up in my kids' lifestyle and activities. I've lost my identity. My passions, painting, sculpting, ect. My sexiness is gone in my eyes, along with my drive. I feel like a mom and that's it...I know my husband struggles with this balance as well." (Anonymous)

Responding SG: @rambo

Hello, fellow mama! Thanks for reaching out. I can absolutely relate...
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phianixx:
I absolutely love this - my twin sister struggles greatly with this issue and I'm going to be spending a lot of time with her this week now I'm home, helping, babysitting and making sure she has some time to focus on and take care of herself without any distractions šŸ§”
suli:
Oh man... I think this is a very common issue with mothers. I strugelled (and still do) with the same things. @ramboĀ  gave awesome advice and I wish I read it earlier ahah

Ask us anything

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Welcome to Dear SG, an advice-style blog where we field your inquiries and post thoughtful responses weekly! Having problems with a coworker? Wondering how to tell your bestie youā€™ve developed feelings for them? Need suggestions for how to cure writerā€™s block? Each week we will have a different SG respond to your queries and their replies will be featured for the front page feed. Please...
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dame:
This is such a good idea! ā¤
haub:
@camilafor