Due to the chauvinistic nature of my last post, I feel like opening up my emotions more:
So, today I was thinking in the shower about great person to person moments I have had.
And that made me think about my last girlfriend and the seconds leading up to our first kiss. We were just friends, not even long time friends. We had known each other well a couple months. And there we were watching a movie, I'm pretty sure it was Tommy Boy. And we were laughing about something, then she tried to tickle me, which didn't work. I tickled back, which REALLY worked and the laughter died down and we were still looking at each other, and I made the move in.
Now, the weird part about me now thinking about this, is that it wasn't a sad moment for me to think back on it. I am really thankful for that moment without the feeling that NEED to have her back. I don't want her back, I like things now. But I wanted to bring that memory up to her when I saw she was online. But to bring up an intimate moment with an ex is considered to be bad, because somewhere inside one of you, the thought of getting back together comes up. Its happened to me in the past. Had a night of hooking up with an ex, just because we were talking about our old (high school quasi-)sex life.
I guess what I am trying to get at is: Why can't you recollect a beautiful moment you've had with someone, without it being viewed as having a motive?
So, today I was thinking in the shower about great person to person moments I have had.
And that made me think about my last girlfriend and the seconds leading up to our first kiss. We were just friends, not even long time friends. We had known each other well a couple months. And there we were watching a movie, I'm pretty sure it was Tommy Boy. And we were laughing about something, then she tried to tickle me, which didn't work. I tickled back, which REALLY worked and the laughter died down and we were still looking at each other, and I made the move in.
Now, the weird part about me now thinking about this, is that it wasn't a sad moment for me to think back on it. I am really thankful for that moment without the feeling that NEED to have her back. I don't want her back, I like things now. But I wanted to bring that memory up to her when I saw she was online. But to bring up an intimate moment with an ex is considered to be bad, because somewhere inside one of you, the thought of getting back together comes up. Its happened to me in the past. Had a night of hooking up with an ex, just because we were talking about our old (high school quasi-)sex life.
I guess what I am trying to get at is: Why can't you recollect a beautiful moment you've had with someone, without it being viewed as having a motive?