I think I may have met someone.
So we have visitor sessions every year, where people come check out our ecovillage. When I first moved here I thought the intentional community was a female movement. Boy was I wrong, mainly who comes through the viz program are couples, families and single men. Now that's not to say that the occasional single female doesn't stroll through here, but usually they aren't looking to move here. Add to this that I'm pretty picky and this equals 3.5 years of celibacy. Yikes
So last month a tattooed covered hottie comes through the viz program and we really hit it off. Keep in mind that members are not suppose to hit on visitors because we want them to experience our ecovillage and want to move here because of the village, not because of potential of a "partner". We hung out nightly, often in a group with the rest of the visitors. A couple of times at bon fires when she had been drinking she got cuddly with me. She enjoyed her time here enough to want to stay for the rest of the season. However she needed to go back to pick up things and her dog.
While she was gone we chatted every night and even started to flirt with her. At that point she told me she wasn't looking for any sort of relationship. That she was dealing with a nut job who she had been involved with for a short period. They are still friends because he is dying (we all are, just sayin) and was trying to be there for him. This just made me more into her and I totally respect that. He is a totally nut job and she is constantly complaining about how stressful it is to be there for him. Mainly because he keeps acting like they are still together.
Anyways she has been back for about 3 weeks now and we still hang out every night, except one night because she was very crabby. We cuddle all the time, go for walks and hold hands and give long hugs every night when we say good-bye, yet we've never kissed. I'm almost certain she digs me and is being truthful when she said she isn't ready for any sort of relationship. We are seen together so often that most people think we are and item. Yet currently we are not.
So I ask you:
1. Does her not wanting to start a relationship sound legit?
2. How do I move out of this "friend" zone?
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