So I posted on facebook about the comment from "Benjamin" on my last blog entry and I got a surprising (or not) amount of support. One friend had this to say:
"Be who you are, friend! Be loud and boisterous! Be loving and friendly and giving! Be the theater-loving, horror movie watching, burlesque going, sexuality exploring, blue self painting, room-fill laughing, wonderfully creative geek that you are! Embrace it fully in yourself, all the things that you love about yourself and add in the things you like about yourself as you find that you have more and more room for them. Stop apologizing for who you are to people who don't want to know you. You have Very unique interests (and I'm not just talking about the "oh, yeah she did!" kind. ) normal/vanilla/boring people may not be into all you are into, and some... (Ok if we are talking REALLY normal/vanilla/boring probably a lot of them) may not be into you the person because of those interests. But SCREW THEM!
"Once you really truly love yourself, and say "fuck you!" To self-doubt, and nay-sayers, then you will absolutely EXUDE confidence, and happiness, and pride, and all that really sexy stuff that women can't keep their hands off of. You aren't exuding confidence now, you have a lot of doubt, and pain, and worry-- much of it justifiably so. But our lives are ONLY the story we tell ourselves-- the past is gone and all you have left of it is what you choose to remember, and all you are to yourself is what you have told yourself you should be and what you have decided that you are because of that. Choose to ignore everything but the positive (I'm still struggling through that too.) Tell yourself only good things can happen, and force yourself to be blasé if they don't. "
I kind of want to paint this on my bedroom wall.