We all know the dating world is now more complicated than it used to be. Dating sites and apps have had people treat their dates as a test drive of vehicle before you make a purchase. That's quite depressing if you think of that analogy. Of course some people just use to it to get laid. I have two stories where a woman seduce me for just a one night stand, but for this blog I'll tell the more depressing tale first and the next blog will be the more humorous seduction where I had to admit – she had game. But that's not the story I'm going to write today. For now the depressing story.
It was a normal day while I was swiping left and right on the tinder app. I ended matching up with a woman at the time who was 30 years old. She was beautiful and she look much younger than what she really was. It was obvious that she took care of herself. I'm not going to use her real name, so I'm just going to call her “Karen” for the sake of this story. She had an interesting profile – she use to live in Hawaii which really grabbed my interest. I messaged her and we really hit it off. Eventually I got her number and we begin to text. If you think about it no one really does phone calls anymore. The traditions are dying which really does suck. But let's get back to the story. We eventually agree to meet up for coffee.
I was nervous. She was beautiful, much older and mature. Well she wasn't that much older. She was only three years older me. But she has three years more of experience. Anyway we meet up at a coffee shop. She looked just like her picture which was awesome. I didn't get catfish. I bought coffee and we started to talk.
The date wasn't going too well. She just didn't have any interest what I had to say. I saw the body language of boredom. I did everything to make conversation more interesting, but nothing I could say would change her mind. It was already set. She even have her friend send her a fake call so she can end the date. You know – people may think by doing that it's more polite than being straight up with the person, but in reality it's quite disrespectful.
We say our goodbyes and she goes off her way. I knew I screwed up on that date and I wasn't expecting to hear from her again. She just didn't like the way I move I guess. That's okay. You can't force someone to like you.
A month later I receive a text from her asking me if I wanted to grab drinks with her. Now this was quite shocking to me. Never in the million years I would thought I would hear from her and not only that – she wanted to get drinks with me. I was super excited! My second chance with her has came in a silver platter. I kept on telling myself not to screw this up!
I meet up with her at a dive bar – super excited to see her. She on the other hand wasn't really giving off that vibe. I talked and talked... She just sat there and said nothing. The same thing that was happening on the first date is happening with this date. I knew I already lost her...again. There was something else that was distracting her and till this day I don't know what it was.
Karen eventually stops me at my tracks and asks if I wanted to go to her place. Now this is quite confusing. Where is this going? It's obvious that she's not interested in me especially with the body language she was giving off. But I was really into this woman so I incline to her request.
We go to her apartment in separate cars. The second I enter the apartment she hands me a beer. I was getting quite nervous and when I get nervous I tend to talk a lot and I mean a lot. She begins to disrobe right in front of me not caring what I had to say. Eventually she begins to get impatient with me.
“Finish up your beer and shut up, okay?”
I chug my beer down. She comes up to me and start kissing me hard. I try to break the tension by talking, but this time she wasn't having it. She became more aggressive and shove me to the bedroom. Karen quickly strips off my clothes and gets on top to ride me like a horse.
Yes we had sex. The most detail you're going to receive for this blog. After we finish she becomes more cold around me.
“I need to sleep. I have to get up early tomorrow. So can you please leave.”
“Okay...? Can I call you sometime...?”
“No! I'm going to be upfront with you. This was a very stressful month for me and I just needed to unwind. You're cute and seem very safe. That's why I asked for drinks and hooked up with you. But I'm not interested in a relationship and not too keen in seeing you again. This was just a one night stand and that's it.”
She was quite assertive with this explanation. Which helped me to get the message. I put on my clothes and leave. She didn't hug or kiss me goodbye. She just said thank you for coming in more of a condescending way.
I was used. To her I was just a naive piece of meat. Which really sucked because I really liked the girl. She knew I was interested in her, but she still used me just to get off some steam. Months later I thought about calling her, but I'm sure she wouldn't respond and if she did it would be something quite negative. I learn something from this. With this digital age people will use the technology to take advantage of people not caring about others feelings. There's selfish individuals out there and she was one of them.
Maybe she was mistreated by her previous boyfriend and now she takes it out on anyone else who would be interested in her. Maybe... It still bothers me and intrigues me. I think it was her attitude that got me hooked.
In altogether there's assholes in this world and hopefully they won't turn me into one. That's what I tell myself everyday when I meet obnoxious people like herself.
