i never want to have children. i made this decision long ago. it just comes to light as my puppy grows. i got her when she was 7 weeks old, and now she's 12 weeks, and it's amazing to see the changes. this little life that i'm responsible for, that depends on me to survive and develop, is thriving and healthy and happy, growing more confident and affectionate each day. and i have to teach her how to behave, and decide what's best for her. she totally trusts me. i absolutely love her.
i think about all the people that have children, just because they can, and never give any thought as to how serious of an undertaking the raising of a child is. you're helping to develop a human life. you're teaching someone the difference between right and wrong, giving them morals, projecting attitudes. and then you're still at the mercy of the financial cost and outside influence.
so i don't want children because i don't want to be a mother. i don't want to be this person for someone. my puppy is enough for me.
just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
i think about all the people that have children, just because they can, and never give any thought as to how serious of an undertaking the raising of a child is. you're helping to develop a human life. you're teaching someone the difference between right and wrong, giving them morals, projecting attitudes. and then you're still at the mercy of the financial cost and outside influence.
so i don't want children because i don't want to be a mother. i don't want to be this person for someone. my puppy is enough for me.
just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
me too! on the kids question. I think Olivia put it really well:
if and when you feel like you have a reason to procreate. and you're ready to give up your life and not be bitter about it.
well, I don't have a reason to have a kid (or not one that strikes me as an important enough reason) and I might end up bitter. Not so much that, but just that it's an incredible responsibility, and if I'm not totally into it, then I'm not the right person for the job ...
you don't have to answer this, but have you thought about what would you do if you got pregnant by accident? A lot of people become parents this way (scary but true). Being clear in my mind about that decision beforehand helped me a ton.
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