Ok one person really needed some serious advice. I told this person to read it here cuz I believe this advice is an important reminder for many on this site.
Nothing you are doing is going to fix whatever it is you are worrying about.
Moving to a new city will not give you a fresh start.
Moving back home from that city will not suddenly make life back to normal. Moving to a place where you don't know anyone is supposed to suck. It takes a full year before things start to feel like home. Till then you will always be homesick, and home will always look better in your memory than it actually was.
Moving away from your parents will not make life better.
Cutting off friends will not reduce drama.
Not commiting to a relationship will not help you change that negative opinion you have towards the opposite sex or dating. How could it? You stopped testing and all you have is old data.
Blaming an ex over being the cause of the breakup is BS. It will happen again with a totally new person.
Punching whoever you want to punch will not stop anything.
Not trusting anyone will not suddenly eventually get you trusting people.
AND HERE IS WHY:
Wherever you go, you will always be there!!!!!!
If you get jealous and kill anyone who looks at your hot date, there will still be someone doing it tomorrow.
If you move to a new city you will have the same issues with friends that made you run away and abandon your old friends.
You are the constant ingredient to all that is wrong with your life. Wherever you go you will be right there with your fears, and insecurity, your patheticness, your rage. You will continue to make yourself a walking bomb, or a walking target. You will remain a victim for as long as you run, or hide, or lie to yourself.
When someone you love beats you, they deserve to die. But the second you go back to them, the second you believe things are better and let him beat you again. The second you know it will happen again but turn your back on the truth.......you deserve to become a victim. Your life is precious. So either treat it and protect it and luv it as precious......or go find a bridge and jump off it. If you are going to choose to ruin your own life over and over I'm tired of hearing your sob stories. You want to keep going back? Fine your choice.
If 3 girls in a row have cheated on you. It's time you stopped thinking of them as sluts and maybe to a glance at the obvious. Maybe the insecure, clingy, "I'll luv any girl who shows me any attention" schtick is partially blamable. I can't respect a sniveling idiot. Odds are the girls couldn't either. Here's a tip for hope. All those girls you love? You don't know what love is. That's your fear hoping for love. It's like wanting water so bad in a desert you start to see it everywhere. Love is way cooler. It's worth the wait.
Basicly all these bad things are partially your fault. I suggest you slow life down and fix yourself. You'll find you become a lot happier.
Besides, lying to yourself costs way to much money and energy.
Go look in a mirror and say, "Yes all this shit is happening cuz I'm a lil pathetic, and a lil screwed up. But I don't have to stay this way." Then go pick out a weakness and work on it. And don't rush. Deciding you are cured too early will seriously lead to something ugly.
I say this out of need. The people who see you repeating this hell are getting tired of repeating themselves, tired of you not listening. They love you but are losing respect for you. They love you but are starting to think your a lost cause. Time is running out. You arent in Hi school anymore. You wont show up next year taller or bigger or prettier. This is what you got. Time to make it work.
Nothing you are doing is going to fix whatever it is you are worrying about.
Moving to a new city will not give you a fresh start.
Moving back home from that city will not suddenly make life back to normal. Moving to a place where you don't know anyone is supposed to suck. It takes a full year before things start to feel like home. Till then you will always be homesick, and home will always look better in your memory than it actually was.
Moving away from your parents will not make life better.
Cutting off friends will not reduce drama.
Not commiting to a relationship will not help you change that negative opinion you have towards the opposite sex or dating. How could it? You stopped testing and all you have is old data.
Blaming an ex over being the cause of the breakup is BS. It will happen again with a totally new person.
Punching whoever you want to punch will not stop anything.
Not trusting anyone will not suddenly eventually get you trusting people.
AND HERE IS WHY:
Wherever you go, you will always be there!!!!!!
If you get jealous and kill anyone who looks at your hot date, there will still be someone doing it tomorrow.
If you move to a new city you will have the same issues with friends that made you run away and abandon your old friends.
You are the constant ingredient to all that is wrong with your life. Wherever you go you will be right there with your fears, and insecurity, your patheticness, your rage. You will continue to make yourself a walking bomb, or a walking target. You will remain a victim for as long as you run, or hide, or lie to yourself.
When someone you love beats you, they deserve to die. But the second you go back to them, the second you believe things are better and let him beat you again. The second you know it will happen again but turn your back on the truth.......you deserve to become a victim. Your life is precious. So either treat it and protect it and luv it as precious......or go find a bridge and jump off it. If you are going to choose to ruin your own life over and over I'm tired of hearing your sob stories. You want to keep going back? Fine your choice.
If 3 girls in a row have cheated on you. It's time you stopped thinking of them as sluts and maybe to a glance at the obvious. Maybe the insecure, clingy, "I'll luv any girl who shows me any attention" schtick is partially blamable. I can't respect a sniveling idiot. Odds are the girls couldn't either. Here's a tip for hope. All those girls you love? You don't know what love is. That's your fear hoping for love. It's like wanting water so bad in a desert you start to see it everywhere. Love is way cooler. It's worth the wait.
Basicly all these bad things are partially your fault. I suggest you slow life down and fix yourself. You'll find you become a lot happier.
Besides, lying to yourself costs way to much money and energy.
Go look in a mirror and say, "Yes all this shit is happening cuz I'm a lil pathetic, and a lil screwed up. But I don't have to stay this way." Then go pick out a weakness and work on it. And don't rush. Deciding you are cured too early will seriously lead to something ugly.
I say this out of need. The people who see you repeating this hell are getting tired of repeating themselves, tired of you not listening. They love you but are losing respect for you. They love you but are starting to think your a lost cause. Time is running out. You arent in Hi school anymore. You wont show up next year taller or bigger or prettier. This is what you got. Time to make it work.
thetotalm:
Cap, you make allot of good points in this entry. I think that you are very obsergant, and also very smart to be able to put something like this in words. I know that personally I can take some stuff away from this post. I hope whoever you wrote this for reads this and then changes whats necessary in there life so that it can be a more productive and more importantly a happier life.
cap:
I'm not any of those things. Except the smart part. I'm self involved and selfish. I have a tendancy to feel compasion for crybabies and I hate that about myself. So I useually give advice once and get seriously annoyed if it's not followed. People are adults and if they cant save them selves when it's been spelled out for them, I generally believe they deserve to suffer. I'm just generally ticked when I have to be "nice". Kinda liked Foreman's dad on that 70's show.