Oh.. there are a thousand different things I can't stand about Stockholm. I can't stand living in the apartment I grew up in, I can't stand the rushing people - they're completely mad! Its like they could kill you if you got a seat on the bus before they did or something. But its also all the bad stuff I've seen and all the bad stuff thats happened in the hidden parts of that city that breaks me down everytime I'm there. Its like carrying a secret and everyone asking you - whispering and ranting in your ears wanting to hear it.
lol. I have an elastic face .. Im always makin faces in mirrors. =)
thanks for your help onthe movinf plans .. god I would love San Fran. but the boy demands we stay away from Ca. fucking hell. =\
Well ... then I'll move to Philly maybe, finish school then move to Ca... hehehehe...
good luck with yoru art schooling! =) What are you going for?
I was watching When Harry Met Sally the other night, and it got me to thinking...
Sally: We are just going to be friends, OK?
Harry: Great, friends. It's the best thing...You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that... Read More
eh....it comes down to respect for the other person and the lines that are drawn - the actual lines mind you not the stated lines- by the "object" of desire.
So for example, if my attractive friend has a boyfriend, loves him and I respect her and/or him (if I don't respect them they're not really a friend) there is no problem. I've been in this situation many times and it works fine. There is just a fundamental mind frame that changes and they become something other than an object of desire. I can shut it down pretty effectively on command.
Now...if she is flirty, doesn't draw out distinct boundaries, is clearly attracted, basically not committed to the sexual cease fire (I've been there too) and I'm attracted...well this is bad. I usually cannot be strong for the both of us. This is where I see the situation break down.
If both parties conspire to sabotage the sexual cease fire through boundary testing and innuendo....it really was doomed from the start.
So basically, if a woman wants to just be friends, it is entirely do-able as long as she is serious about it and committed to it through action.
The one wrinkle to this is...if she is single, the guy sometimes has a hard time convincing himself to not "give it the college try", or simply he has difficulty not attempting to win her over out of fear that he may miss an opportunity for true love because he was not aggressive enough or didn't pursue her and induce the situation to it's potential conclusion. He mises signals because he is wearing the "blinders of hope".
Basically the "missed opportunity" syndrome. I'm sure you're familiar with it. The old, "at least I tried" or "I'd go crazy thinking I had a chance but didn't take that chance and know for sure."
So things get complicated because humans have a fantastic ability to sublimate the obvious signals being sent by another if they are blinded by love or desire. It's self-actualization gone wrong. It's those guys you always say "can't take a hint."
A lot of "dense" or "persistent" guys are just plain meat headed morons, in which case they just want to get their dick wet....but I assume you would never befriend one of those type, so we're back to the previous explanation.
It's complicated...but I love the link and discussion...interesting...thanks
i actually think it is possible for men to be friends with women that they are attracted to under one condition. the guy has to be in love (and mean for real in love) with a girl. at least that is how it is for me. when i am in love i get blinders that make it capable for real friendship with other pretty girls; however if the love goes bottom up, i will imedediately become attracted to said girls.
are you sure kandinsky was actually synaesthetic? i know a lot of people commonly thought to be synaesthetic (like rimbaud, for example) actually weren't - they were just very interested in the phenomenon.
So there's no escaping the plague of the 20 Facts list (thanks a lot Fred! hehe) Everyone in SG land has succombed it seems, so I will too, for your reading pleasure... time to get really personal...
1>> I used to sleepwalk a lot when I was 5-6 years old. Once I sleepwalked out of my bedroom, which was on the bottom floor in... Read More
ive never know anyone who has read or mentoined that book. i try to recamend it to everyone but no one listens. ive read it three time so for and will probably read it more. i found you in your group and thought id say hi. i know your feeling of being in debt and am worried about it as well. i came close to seeing red tonight and thought id read up in the group. it makes me feel less alone. hope you are having great dreams. good night
I really admire your artwork. (I clicked through to your yahoo photo album, too.)
Your journal entries speak to me as well.
Keep on keepin' on, Miss CandyCox.
"Our Generation has had no Great war, no Great Depression. Our war is spiritual. Our depression is our lives."
"What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me.... Read More
save me from another day of sitting on my ass and watching TV/writing/reading/taking walks around my neighborhood.
words of advice that someone should listen to: don't quit your job until you have another job lined up.