camalot

I need to vent. So the friend who wants to get me in the sack is (was) in fact engaged to a fuckin prick of a guy. He treats her so, so poorly. He's abusive emotionally, verbally, mentally and falls JUST short of phisical abuse. They met when she was 16 and he was 22. This guy blames her for everything that is wrong in their relationship INCLUDING the fact that the only reason they are engaged is because she wants to have a family. He has three kids with another girl and does not want any more but is only going to have ONE with my friend (which I'm positive he will resent and treat like shit just as he does his other kids). Then he will resent her for making him marry her and have yet another kid. God what a fucking mess.

But wait, It gets better...this guy is positive that she and I have been having sex while their relationship wobbles on its last leg. While we did kiss once on the night that they broke up ( I know, bad me) that has been the extent of our physical contact. So this guy goes to my wifes store supposedly to tell her that we're fooling around behind her back. That freaked my wife out big time. Not that we have a small thing going (because she knows aalllllllll about that) but because this big fat dominant dog brings their shit to our front door.

So now I'm thinking, okay, that was not cool and cannot happen again. All I want is the best for my friend which means getting as far away from this dick as humanly possible. We have shared a strong mutual attraction for eachother for many years but have not really talked about it untill recently when she realized that she has to leave this guy and that my wife and I have an open marriage. I know, bad mix. So right now, it's clear to me that my involvement is not helping because when she needs to talk, she comes to me and he thinks we're fucking so its a very, very bad thing. I need to remove myself from the situation to ease the pressure in their breakup and to stop the drama from coming to my front door again.

Trouble is, she is now on early vaccation time for two weeks and I need to tell her that I'm bowing out untill she sorts out the shit with the ex and he's out of her life completely but she has't called and i can't call because that wouldn't be bowing out...that would be still involved, right?

Fuck this is tangled. I'm not afraid that she will get over her attraction to me or that it will take a very long time to get to a point where she's ready to move on from him and start something with me. I just don't want her to feel like I'm abandoning her. I care for her. I want her to be happy.

Disregard everything I've written...I'm just thinking out loud...or in type. Whatever.