Am I wrong to be incredibly bothered when I share some of my feelings and my boyfriend replies with "You're kidding right?"
Maybe I'm overreacting, but I feel like I could cry right now....
Maybe I'm overreacting, but I feel like I could cry right now....
mclrn1:
Doesn't sound good. Emotional maturity to share and accept your partner's feelings is the key to communications in any relationship (it has to work both ways). There's not much context here to work with, and i think you need to let him know that you need to talk about your feelings from time to time (guys generally don't like to go down that road, but they can do it) and that him dismissing your feelings makes you feel even worse. Hopefully you can work through it and it won't spiral downwards. Don't let it make you feel worse! Don't let him dismiss your concerns...that could lead to you feeling that you can't talk to him, which kills your communications, trust and slowly erodes your relationship. Don't let it happen! Guys and gals definitely communicate differently. Don't take it as though its your fault. Its not, but do try to make it work, and hopefully he'll be able to make it work too. Best of luck.
hiro:
I would say you are not wrong for that, I dont know anything about him, but if that line is an indication of what he's like, you might need to set some grounds of understanding, because he may be totally dismissing what you have to say or how you feel, and although it may not necessarily be on purpose, if you dont make it known, it could unintentionally happen again. Sorry it worked you up, hopefully you guys talk it out.