boxfrog

That's really sad. Finding out about stuff like that after the fact is hard...
I had a friend who was murdered about 3 years ago, and she still doesn't have a headstone. .. A few weeks ago, I sent an email round my work (small company, about 40 people) explaining the circumstances around her death and saying we were trying to raise money for a headstone and selling cds and t shirts and stuff (she was a singer) ...and one of the sysadmins came to see me to tell me that he knew her.. and didn't know she was dead. I felt awful
Anyway. I hope you feel ok.

Weird. I have always thought about that happening. I had this one friend and I knew nobody else who saw him and I saw him heaps, then one day he just disappeared. I always thought maybe he had died cos if he had it would explain it and I'd never know because I only ever met one other person who knew him and I could barely remember his name let alone what he loked like. Plus he lived far away.

Well I ran into that one dude about a month ago and the guy I thought was dead actually turned from a cool metal dude to a junkie raver and then moved to Finland forever to be with some chick.

It's weird when you lose contact with people and you have no idea where they are or what they are doing.