Has anyone had to deal with a significant other's crazy ex?
My current man is still married to his "crazy ex". In North Carolina you have to be living separately for a year and a day before getting a divorce. They were together 8 years, they got married young and before he got shipped off in the Army. Classic mistake I would say of many people in the military. Thankfully that time is less then two months away. We met shortly after they were seperated, but we were just friends, few months back we took it to the next level, and last month I moved here. No idea I would have this to deal with.
She is making our life a LIVING HELL. Its driving me crazy, I love my boyfriend so much otherwise I would bail on all this shit. She shows up at the door, she used to call him everyday... like 10 times in a row until he called her back or would answer. Now that we have new phones she doesn't know his number, and now she calls his sergeant and first sergeant just as much. Which in turn gets him in trouble at work. They agreed to talk through e-mails. Apparently that meant nothing. Also before we got joint bank accounts, she took $500 from their "joint" account. She is entitled to some of his money but that wasn't hers, it was for bills of THEIRS that he is getting the shit end of having to pay. So those bills were late, and she also told the army he wasn't paying her the monthly allotment she was entitled to, ( which was a lie ) so he had to set up through work to have some of his paycheck put into her account.... so she got like $1000 from him, by being a crazy psycho bitch. The sad thing is my BF did the right thing, until myself and some friends helped him see the light, he was paying her rent, car insurance, all the bills at the house, and whatever other expenses she had. All the while he lived with friends, and ate unhealthy. He felt guilty because they moved to Ft Bragg and she had to pick up different college, and pick up a new life. ( boo hoo thats what military wives do, cant take the heat get the hell out ) She is a spoiled bitch, who had him pamper her. She certainly milked it too. I'll give her some credit. She sat at home with a college education and never got a job. Finally when I moved here he pressured her and made her move out. At first I thought he did it because of me, but I know him to be wonderful and have a big heart. I know he feels really guilty, which he shouldnt he gave her everything. It stressing me out a lot. In all honesty I have never gotten along with many females, due to this reason, majority of them that I have known are full of drama, and act irrationally based or their emotions. Funny thing. This bitch is going to be a psychologist. Hopefully she'll diagnose whats wrong with her crazy ass. Grr Im so angry. Right now I would love to see her, the first time it took everything I had in me not to confront her. When she came here, she tried antagonizing me. I could here her loud white trash mouth yelling and calling me a skank. If I would have given in to my anger at that moment she would have wished she never opened her mouth.
Any who :p Im done ranting. My point of the post, anyone have any advice or similar stories they'd share? Maybe it will make me feel better.
My current man is still married to his "crazy ex". In North Carolina you have to be living separately for a year and a day before getting a divorce. They were together 8 years, they got married young and before he got shipped off in the Army. Classic mistake I would say of many people in the military. Thankfully that time is less then two months away. We met shortly after they were seperated, but we were just friends, few months back we took it to the next level, and last month I moved here. No idea I would have this to deal with.
She is making our life a LIVING HELL. Its driving me crazy, I love my boyfriend so much otherwise I would bail on all this shit. She shows up at the door, she used to call him everyday... like 10 times in a row until he called her back or would answer. Now that we have new phones she doesn't know his number, and now she calls his sergeant and first sergeant just as much. Which in turn gets him in trouble at work. They agreed to talk through e-mails. Apparently that meant nothing. Also before we got joint bank accounts, she took $500 from their "joint" account. She is entitled to some of his money but that wasn't hers, it was for bills of THEIRS that he is getting the shit end of having to pay. So those bills were late, and she also told the army he wasn't paying her the monthly allotment she was entitled to, ( which was a lie ) so he had to set up through work to have some of his paycheck put into her account.... so she got like $1000 from him, by being a crazy psycho bitch. The sad thing is my BF did the right thing, until myself and some friends helped him see the light, he was paying her rent, car insurance, all the bills at the house, and whatever other expenses she had. All the while he lived with friends, and ate unhealthy. He felt guilty because they moved to Ft Bragg and she had to pick up different college, and pick up a new life. ( boo hoo thats what military wives do, cant take the heat get the hell out ) She is a spoiled bitch, who had him pamper her. She certainly milked it too. I'll give her some credit. She sat at home with a college education and never got a job. Finally when I moved here he pressured her and made her move out. At first I thought he did it because of me, but I know him to be wonderful and have a big heart. I know he feels really guilty, which he shouldnt he gave her everything. It stressing me out a lot. In all honesty I have never gotten along with many females, due to this reason, majority of them that I have known are full of drama, and act irrationally based or their emotions. Funny thing. This bitch is going to be a psychologist. Hopefully she'll diagnose whats wrong with her crazy ass. Grr Im so angry. Right now I would love to see her, the first time it took everything I had in me not to confront her. When she came here, she tried antagonizing me. I could here her loud white trash mouth yelling and calling me a skank. If I would have given in to my anger at that moment she would have wished she never opened her mouth.
Any who :p Im done ranting. My point of the post, anyone have any advice or similar stories they'd share? Maybe it will make me feel better.
xerxes:
Damn, that sucks. I've never experienced anything like that before.
thefly:
Big problem in this area. I have a friend that married someone with a crazy ex. They had a kid so that crazy never stopped, ten years and running. It is the fear of such things that keeps me single.