An ordinary life
My mother used to be a teacher. When my older sisters were born she continued to work but when my younger sister and I were born she quit to look after the family. Now she likes watching University Challenge and gardening.
My mother gave up her job and her life and put her dreams on hold for 20 years to raise her children. She grew all our vegetables with her own hands. She lived in a place she hated because we lived there.
She had a fantastically interesting childhood. But you wouldn`t know any of that....unless you asked her.
I don't know how to feel about the "not looking" theory however. If I really wanted to find a giraffe, for example, and I decided the best way to find one was to stop looking for one, I doubt I would be rewarded with the sight of a giraffe walking down the street. Just saying.
Curi.
How well do we really know our parents?