Okay - a bit of my philosophy on a part of life. This actually started in Jessica's journal on inside/outside beauty. You may want to look there first and then come back. But it made me want to write. Alot.
Now - many of you will probably think I come across as a big hypocrite as you read what I write. I'm more guilty than most as being a guy(dude, male) who runs around here to the SGs and army members and e-mails them (not IM - I'm not rude like that), or posts on their page or on the boards and mention how cute or adorable or sexy or lovely they are (or any other manner of compliments). I don't mean it to be creepy - but just complimentary (although my lack of social skills may make it sound otherwise). Maybe girls don't like to hear that - the compliments - but I think that every pretty girl needs to be told that from time to time - even if I am not interested in her - just to tell the truth and pay a compliment. There is real outer physical beauty on this site - Jessica, Violet, Roxy, Elise, Chicago, etc...I could go on and on - do not mean to exclude anybody but I can't type every name and in the members - Gea, Freyja, thirtyseven, eyesoopenned, etc...once again I could go on and on - and I do not mean to exclude. There are others - can't type everybody - the above names are just some of many examples (and I do not mean to creep any of you out - not a psycho here). BUT - while this is outer beauty in MY eyes - I do not think it is recognized by most as conventional outer beauty. The tall, slim, tanned, blonde, small-hipped, silicone implanted models. No thank you. I like the goths, crusties, vapms, pierced, tattoed etc. with small or large natural breats and hips and feckles and the like. My point is - I think it is important that myself and many, many members on this site and SGs recognize outer beauty in men AND women that the "majority" may be blind to. And so why not tell someone you think they are so adorable - especially when they may not hear it elsewhere or every day. I see what I see and like what I like and say what I say - which is always true. Not just pandering to give a compliment for the sake of giving it. And another reason I am hypocritical - is with that being said I am still somewhat reluctant to post a photo here yet. Aside from the fact, that the ones I have on disc are too large and not properly sized - they are from my "work disguise" and I am in the whole suit and tie thing and not my at home, normal tattoed-I'm in black-love my bowling shirt thing. So I don't want to post something and be disregarded as someone who should not be here anyway - and not being the cutest boy around - fearful of putting up any pic.
Part 2 - the inside beauty. The most important beauty. I , myself, also try to comment on people's, lives, thoughts, opinions, stories, posts, songs, poetry. This tells me much more than thier photos and is more important. For many of you - I can read your journals, posts, artistic work and I learn more about you, your thoughts, personality, opinions, likes and dislikes than I ever would by meeting you once in person or on a first date or hanging out at a bar. And for many of you - that is where I see the true beauty of your personalities and what you have to offer the world or people in general or significant others. Things that put your sets or profile photos or other posted photos to shame. True inner beauty. After all - at 37 or 40 you will not look the same as at 18 or 22 - so what you have inside is what counts - that will last and last and what you can always offer. I would hate to be initially judged in a negative way just on outward appearance by a girl because I think she then misses out on all the good stuff inside me. So I try not to do the same to girls. I mean - we are all human - so yes - whatever we find to be beautiful physically we like to look at and appreciate - and I am no exception. But when it comes down to it in dating or relations my theory is - if I go blind today - would I still want to date this person, be with this person, love this person. If I could never look at them again - where their appearance was not important - would I still want to be there. And if you ask this question - the answer may surprise you.
Okay - maybe I'm a puss for thinking this way. Maybe I have missed the boat and have it all wrong. Just my rant.
"There's only one way of life..and that's your own, that's your own, that's your own." The Levellers 1993
Now - many of you will probably think I come across as a big hypocrite as you read what I write. I'm more guilty than most as being a guy(dude, male) who runs around here to the SGs and army members and e-mails them (not IM - I'm not rude like that), or posts on their page or on the boards and mention how cute or adorable or sexy or lovely they are (or any other manner of compliments). I don't mean it to be creepy - but just complimentary (although my lack of social skills may make it sound otherwise). Maybe girls don't like to hear that - the compliments - but I think that every pretty girl needs to be told that from time to time - even if I am not interested in her - just to tell the truth and pay a compliment. There is real outer physical beauty on this site - Jessica, Violet, Roxy, Elise, Chicago, etc...I could go on and on - do not mean to exclude anybody but I can't type every name and in the members - Gea, Freyja, thirtyseven, eyesoopenned, etc...once again I could go on and on - and I do not mean to exclude. There are others - can't type everybody - the above names are just some of many examples (and I do not mean to creep any of you out - not a psycho here). BUT - while this is outer beauty in MY eyes - I do not think it is recognized by most as conventional outer beauty. The tall, slim, tanned, blonde, small-hipped, silicone implanted models. No thank you. I like the goths, crusties, vapms, pierced, tattoed etc. with small or large natural breats and hips and feckles and the like. My point is - I think it is important that myself and many, many members on this site and SGs recognize outer beauty in men AND women that the "majority" may be blind to. And so why not tell someone you think they are so adorable - especially when they may not hear it elsewhere or every day. I see what I see and like what I like and say what I say - which is always true. Not just pandering to give a compliment for the sake of giving it. And another reason I am hypocritical - is with that being said I am still somewhat reluctant to post a photo here yet. Aside from the fact, that the ones I have on disc are too large and not properly sized - they are from my "work disguise" and I am in the whole suit and tie thing and not my at home, normal tattoed-I'm in black-love my bowling shirt thing. So I don't want to post something and be disregarded as someone who should not be here anyway - and not being the cutest boy around - fearful of putting up any pic.
Part 2 - the inside beauty. The most important beauty. I , myself, also try to comment on people's, lives, thoughts, opinions, stories, posts, songs, poetry. This tells me much more than thier photos and is more important. For many of you - I can read your journals, posts, artistic work and I learn more about you, your thoughts, personality, opinions, likes and dislikes than I ever would by meeting you once in person or on a first date or hanging out at a bar. And for many of you - that is where I see the true beauty of your personalities and what you have to offer the world or people in general or significant others. Things that put your sets or profile photos or other posted photos to shame. True inner beauty. After all - at 37 or 40 you will not look the same as at 18 or 22 - so what you have inside is what counts - that will last and last and what you can always offer. I would hate to be initially judged in a negative way just on outward appearance by a girl because I think she then misses out on all the good stuff inside me. So I try not to do the same to girls. I mean - we are all human - so yes - whatever we find to be beautiful physically we like to look at and appreciate - and I am no exception. But when it comes down to it in dating or relations my theory is - if I go blind today - would I still want to date this person, be with this person, love this person. If I could never look at them again - where their appearance was not important - would I still want to be there. And if you ask this question - the answer may surprise you.
Okay - maybe I'm a puss for thinking this way. Maybe I have missed the boat and have it all wrong. Just my rant.
"There's only one way of life..and that's your own, that's your own, that's your own." The Levellers 1993
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But you said something that made me think, and i thought was very beautiful- that if you were to go blind, would you still love the person you were with. and that is the essence of beauty and love.
and you are NOT a puss for thinking this way. you are the kind of person i would grab up in a second
xoxo csilla
p.s. thanks for your email. it made me feel good that you think i am intelligent and well-written. it meant a lot.