If I only knew what to do...I have a question for you all. How would you feel (and be honest) I have an open relationship with my husband (12yrs married) We are both bi-sexual, we had an awsome weekend with another woman...Our #1 rule is that we dont play without the other there. All three of us are attracted to each other and wanted this to happen...my problem is 3 days later after an arguement with the hubby I found him & her in a hotel in which he never came home until the next morning 
I am hurt beyond words and I feel betrayed by both of them. I feel as though what he did was cheating. I apperently didnt see that the two of them had developed feelings for each other that did not include me. The other problem is I started to develope feelings for her as well. I cant get past the fact that after catching them they just went ok she knows and what ever. Now he says he's sorry and wants this to work but I just dont know. I just dont know what to do...I feel all fucked up inside. I love him...12yrs is a long time...but I am pissed and hurt at both of them. We went to a therapist on Tue. last week and I left feeling more hurt and angered than before. This is certainly one screwed up mess...somebody give me some advice...see ya later 
I am hurt beyond words and I feel betrayed by both of them. I feel as though what he did was cheating. I apperently didnt see that the two of them had developed feelings for each other that did not include me. The other problem is I started to develope feelings for her as well. I cant get past the fact that after catching them they just went ok she knows and what ever. Now he says he's sorry and wants this to work but I just dont know. I just dont know what to do...I feel all fucked up inside. I love him...12yrs is a long time...but I am pissed and hurt at both of them. We went to a therapist on Tue. last week and I left feeling more hurt and angered than before. This is certainly one screwed up mess...somebody give me some advice...see ya later VIEW 4 of 4 COMMENTS
jonnytrrrash7:
i once caught a girlfriend making out with a mutual friend at a party.....she had her shirt unbuttoned and i'm pretty sure it woulda gone farther had i not stumbled upon them...............things were never really the same after that............you have a lot more at stake here...........hopefuly you can work thru this together.........
sedussa:
First off, before I go spouting off advise, I want to just tell you that I am sorry this has happened. You sound like a really awesome person who doesn't deserve this crap. That said, it appears that no amount of good karma keeps bad things from happening to good people. Sorry to sound like a freaking cliche! You seem like a tough cookie so I am confident that you will put forth the effort to salvage your relationship. As someone who has been in a relationship with the same person for 13 consecutive years, married for the last 6 of them and who also has a child, like you, I highly recommend counseling. It's great that you have already had a session because it shows that you both have in interest in working things out. Having gone through it myself, I know sometimes you feel worse than you did going in. It's worth it to try and work things out for the sake of your daughter and for all the years you have already invested in your marraige. If you don't like your therapist, find another until you find someone you both feel comfortable talking to and being completely honest with. I wish you the best of luck.