Is it really possible to be friends with an ex? You would think that there was (hopefully) something other than sex that brought you together in the first place. It would be nice if you could retain some of that companionship somewhere. Why does it have to turn into, "You don't want to fuck my anymore, so I'm not interested in talking to you?"Obviously you guys had a good time, or you wouldn't have stayed together.
Is it because of hurt feelings? Does the rejection from your lover force most people to shut out any future chance for pain? I mean personally, my reasons have been mostly selfish. I stopped talking to one because he was incredibly self-centered and depressive, and he tended to take me for granted. Plus, I wanted him to realize everything he lost, but because of previously mentioned personality flaws, lets just say that never happened. I can't talk to the other because honestly, I still have feelings for him and can't stand to a.) watch him play me over and over and b.) see him end up with someone else, god forbid not as pretty, smart and funny as me. (I call that confidence and jealousy, thank you)
I think that its easier if two people just end up not having romantic feelings for each other anymore. But, let's face it, that's most likely the case for something like 4% of ex-lovers. In the end, it always comes down to someone stopped liking the other first. I just hate the fact that the only reason we have to meet members of the opposite sex is for sex. Why can nothing exist afterward?
Is it because of hurt feelings? Does the rejection from your lover force most people to shut out any future chance for pain? I mean personally, my reasons have been mostly selfish. I stopped talking to one because he was incredibly self-centered and depressive, and he tended to take me for granted. Plus, I wanted him to realize everything he lost, but because of previously mentioned personality flaws, lets just say that never happened. I can't talk to the other because honestly, I still have feelings for him and can't stand to a.) watch him play me over and over and b.) see him end up with someone else, god forbid not as pretty, smart and funny as me. (I call that confidence and jealousy, thank you)
I think that its easier if two people just end up not having romantic feelings for each other anymore. But, let's face it, that's most likely the case for something like 4% of ex-lovers. In the end, it always comes down to someone stopped liking the other first. I just hate the fact that the only reason we have to meet members of the opposite sex is for sex. Why can nothing exist afterward?
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As for being able to be friends with an ex: Not very easy at all. Both parties end up trying to better the other, and gloating about. Whether plainly visible or not, that's what ends up happening. It's hard to stay completely away from, or stop thinking of the ex because they were a big part of your life, after all you did share something with them that you won't share with most. Am I being to introspective? lol.
Anyway, in my opinon, its really hard to be friends with an ex.
I've always tried to be friends with ex's.. its never worked. I won't stop tryin, but its not the odds on favorite.