Hi guys!
"Little mad sometimes" is doing well, we're at 1200 loves which means the world to me!
It's almost at the point my set "Window to heaven" was at when it finished in member review. Which makes me so proud!
So with those in mind and as I've had requests for more, here is domination part two.
You have to be confident in yourself to become a dom, being strong willed and creative are two of the most important qualities you need to possess in my opinion, that and a love for yourself. Clients will try to push the boundaries with you (especially if they're trying to find what they like themselves), you have to draw a line in the sand and stand by it.
You don't have to wear pvc or leather to dominate, I've met so many girls who do it just by voice alone (having a large command over your vocabulary also helps) it's easy to dominate just wearing nice normal wear if you have control over your ability to be commanding. Don't ever be surprised, you'll hear some things that may shock you at first, but that person has trusted you with that fantasy so be careful not to insult them by laughing. You'll hear it all!
Cleanliness is a must, you want to make clients feel as if they're in a dream from the moment they walk into your home. You must never make them feel like someone has been there before them, don't speak about other clients, when they're in a session with you it's just them and you. Nothing else matters. Make rules and don't cross the line however tempting, you are there to push them to their limits, the limits you have agreed together. Push too far and you can break trust and destroy the dom/sub relationship permanently.
Advertise yourself, if you can spread the word in the right communities you'll soon be up and running. If it's cam only, establish yourself and explain very clearly what you offer before you start up.
You need to decide with them before you start exactly what you are doing, this will not only reassure you, it'll help to relax them. You want to help guide them into sub space, they can only do that if they trust you. Make a plan, come up with ideas. You don't have to have crazy equipment to start with, the basics are easy to come by and you can use household items as I have many times. Remember exactly what you've agreed upon and make the line as I mentioned before, explain to them the rules, then get cracking!
My first ever in person client, as I've mentioned in my previous blog, was as nervous as I was. He sat outside in the car for two hours messaging me before he actually came in, bought a pair of my knickers, bowed down on the floor and kissed my feet, and left. I felt amazing! It was great money and I knew then and there it was where I wanted to go at that point in my life. He doesn't mind me writing about him, he's always been brilliant and trusted me completely after our first few sessions.
After you've finished with the first time nerves you'll soon slip into a routine and you'll find yourself growing into someone you never thought you could be before. An experienced dom.
Be creative, inventive and safe. Safety is always first. If someone asks you to do something that endangers their safety or yours, remember that although it may seem fun in the moment, hindsight is a very different thing. Keep control over yourself, your client and the situation. You'll either love it or hate it! If you love it you'll fall in love with the job, it'll help you develop into something incredible.
I hope you enjoyed this! I hope it helps in your personal journey.
I'll write more as we go along!
If you have any questions, send them across and I'll make a little video.
All my love,
A x
@missy @rambo
