I have been on the fence about writing this, but I also feel it is important to not leave anything open ended. Opened ended questions are good for some things, but a closure is not really one of them. I will try to make it brief and as informative, but also end on a good note.
While I have seen the various shambles left in the wake of the recent dramatic events of several SG’s calling out the poor management and corruption, as well as very private negative occurrences between models I feel it is not only my responsibility, but also my personal need and right to express that I also have seen these issues become validated through personal conversations on and of SG, mostly off because, well, why talk crap about someone where they can pull up any number of your messages for their own personal needs and agendas. Be smart where you talk and about whom…. I have heard terrible rumors, seen harassment, and even once followed models who I admired and found attractive only to find them be horrendous and entitled punks living in the image of their own legend. Nobody likes a cry ass who throws a fit when they don’t get their way. Princess is a title, but we are living in 2022, get it together….
I have had positive and incredible relationships as well. Some of the most amazing people I have met through both members and SG affiliates. There is a lot of talent here that sadly get a blind eye for whatever reason. We may never truly get the truth as to what it happened one way or another, but that’s why some people are going, and I support that. Unfortunately, that is the world we live in. Just because you have talent does not mean people will like you. In fact, it is often the very opposite. People loath what they do not have. A good quote I once heard that I find so truly and incredibly relevant goes as this.
“People want to see you do well, but not better than them”
Some people are prettier, some are more fit, some have expensive tattoos while others do not, some have nice homes while others are barely getting by some people are popular while others are a recluse. That was what led me here. That is what made me want to be here. To be that awkward fellow that was strange and didn’t fit in. I assumed that is what made this place so great. A place where anyone who did not fit in could fit in fine. Like a virtual island of misfit toys. At first, it was. There were parameters that most of us men and women encounter. Everything has it is limit I suppose.
However, over the last couple of years I began to see beyond what the site advertised.
I too, am guilty of not being more proactive, asking harder questions, defending, and standing up for people who were treated unfairly. The reason being? I am just a member, a small, insignificant fish in a great big boiling pot of angry estrogen temper tantrums.
I liked the people I connected with, I enjoyed the few, genuine relationships I formed both present and previous. I met some awesome people then and now and truly wish them the best. Many have left and have bigger and better things more suited for what they were truly searching, and I’m so proud of them for doing it.
An important message I want to say and promote if anything that I have learned is this…
Leave your mark wherever you are. Leave a post and message that others will find and see. Feeds go backwards. This will be the first thing anyone sees when they look you up. Then, if curious, they will trace the breadcrumbs back to see how it all transpired. I want people to know I truly enjoyed a majority of my time. I enjoyed the great friends I met and conversed with. I once, really truly enjoyed being here. I hope whoever reads this find in themselves that whatever they seek here, new or old, that this is the place they want to be. That this is the place they enjoy, feel safe, and are not pressured by someone’s else’s agenda to be something they may not feel they are. Do not get bullied. Stand up for yourself no matter who they are. Do not conform to someone else’s desires. Make the sets you like, because it’s what you are interested in not because it makes you popular, join the groups you like, not the groups that are busy, make the friends who support you, not the friends that will make you popular with numbers instead of connections, if someone upsets you its ok to block them and move on. It is ok to be angry if someone violates your views or needs. You are a person as much as the next. Be the person you are! You are allowed to have needs, desires, fears and courage that should be supported instead of shunned. I implore you to be the person you were created to be. Hopefully that person becomes something else as we all grow and develop into other things. We change but be sure to change for you! Change for what you feels is best for you, not anyone else.
I truly hope that whoever reads this find it in them to be the very person they want and hope to be. You are amazing! Take care of yourself, speak your truth and never feel the need to validate how someone else upset you because it makes them look poorly. If that image is more important than your feelings and safety than they are not meant to be around, you.
Good luck all of you. I truly hope you find what you need here.