I came to belief some time ago: that everything has an expiration date. I still feel this is true, but at times I still find it very hard to let go. I find myself holding on, and have to remember to just let go. Friendships, lovers, and even sometimes family all fall under this reality that nothing is forever. Relationships were never supposed to be. Enjoy what you have in the moment, and when one is with out, know that something new will come along. In the end, by holding on, I only become pathetic and desperate to those around me. Leaving opportunity's by the way side due to being distracted with what should already be gone. Leaving my friends behind, and my using Father to fend for himself: This is very hard for me. In a time when I need to be focused on my own education, I find it hard not to focus on them.
Has anyone else come up against this? How can I let go, and allow myself to be free?
Has anyone else come up against this? How can I let go, and allow myself to be free?
i remember the first time i realized that friends don't necessarily last forever.
it really rocked me.
i think what it comes down to is the human condition.
you gotta look out for number one because no one else is going to and if someone is making your life miserable, you have to cut them off in the name of self-preservation.
learn from the experience, move on.
family is a little different.
if i was you, i'd leave a door open but with conditions.
i gave my dad a couple opportunities to have a better relationship and he downright ignored them.
i started conversations, i even sent him letters.
initially i was bitter that he was ignoring me, but in the end, i felt ok about it because i had done what i needed to do and it created closure.
i gave him the chance, he shut me down. his bad, end of story.
i've moved on.
glad i could provide some perspective.