This was posted on my livejournal, but I figured that I would put it on here, because it's been on my mind. It has absolutely nothing to do with anyone [or even me for that fact], but I just needed to get this out. If you're offended, I'm sorry.
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How do we define love? How do we even know if we've ever been in love? Is there one generic feeling that everyone goes through to know that they are in love?
Love is by far the most confusing emotion that I think a human being can experience. Everyone knows what it feels like to be happy, what it feels like when your family pet dies and the grief and remorse that you feel with it, but not necessarily everyone falls in love. When you ask someone what it is like to be in love, answers generally range from "it's the best feeling in the world" to "it's hard to describe". If love is so wonderful, shouldn't you be able to describe it to those who are naive to it?
How do we know if we have truly fallen in love? Do we realize when we're in love we feel like crying tears of joy, or we just feel constantly happy? Couldn't this be interpretted as being truly happy with someone? Maybe some people go through their lives just being happy with someone, but not being in love. Is it possible? When we're all little and our parents teach us different emotions, they don't teach us what it is like to be in love. We're taught to love our family and friends, just not what it would be like to love someone who could be our significant other. We're also not taught the difference between lust and love. Who knows, we could be lusting for someone, as opposed to loving them. How are we to ever know?
How is it possible to be in love with two people at two seperate times? If you've been in many long-term, committed relationships, chances are, you've "been in love" with several people. Falling out of love with someone is one thing, but how are we sure that we don't still love our last fling and we're using those feelings to make our next relationship work so we can feel loved? Is it possible to love another person? How do we really know that the person that we are with truly loves us, or if they're rebounding their feelings to convince themselves they aren't in love anymore with the person in their past life? How do we know if they're not using us?
Love and sex almost always go together, but do they come together as two seperate entities (for example: Person A= sex and Person B= love), or do they both come together (for example: Person C= love and sex and Person D= sex and love). How do we know that our love isn't being used for the purposes of sex? Sex is something that about 98% of the population can agree with at least one point in their lives and the act in itself is for creation. In this humanistic society, you create life with the person that you love so that you can have a wonderful family living in a country cottage with white picket fences. Yes, I know that is very stereotypical. but that's the image that has been pasted into our minds. How do we know that if we ever get into that yellow daffodil moment that our lover had true intentions to get us there and not just for the sex? People are sick and twisted in this society, so yes, this can happen!
How do we know that we aren't being used and that the person that is using us decides to do it with love? How do we truly know if someone is being honest with us when there is so much dishonesty in this society?
Alright, enough of that. I just had to get that off my chest. If it doesn't make sense, don't worry about it. Again, this has been on my mind and it has nothing to do with me or anyone else.
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How do we define love? How do we even know if we've ever been in love? Is there one generic feeling that everyone goes through to know that they are in love?
Love is by far the most confusing emotion that I think a human being can experience. Everyone knows what it feels like to be happy, what it feels like when your family pet dies and the grief and remorse that you feel with it, but not necessarily everyone falls in love. When you ask someone what it is like to be in love, answers generally range from "it's the best feeling in the world" to "it's hard to describe". If love is so wonderful, shouldn't you be able to describe it to those who are naive to it?
How do we know if we have truly fallen in love? Do we realize when we're in love we feel like crying tears of joy, or we just feel constantly happy? Couldn't this be interpretted as being truly happy with someone? Maybe some people go through their lives just being happy with someone, but not being in love. Is it possible? When we're all little and our parents teach us different emotions, they don't teach us what it is like to be in love. We're taught to love our family and friends, just not what it would be like to love someone who could be our significant other. We're also not taught the difference between lust and love. Who knows, we could be lusting for someone, as opposed to loving them. How are we to ever know?
How is it possible to be in love with two people at two seperate times? If you've been in many long-term, committed relationships, chances are, you've "been in love" with several people. Falling out of love with someone is one thing, but how are we sure that we don't still love our last fling and we're using those feelings to make our next relationship work so we can feel loved? Is it possible to love another person? How do we really know that the person that we are with truly loves us, or if they're rebounding their feelings to convince themselves they aren't in love anymore with the person in their past life? How do we know if they're not using us?
Love and sex almost always go together, but do they come together as two seperate entities (for example: Person A= sex and Person B= love), or do they both come together (for example: Person C= love and sex and Person D= sex and love). How do we know that our love isn't being used for the purposes of sex? Sex is something that about 98% of the population can agree with at least one point in their lives and the act in itself is for creation. In this humanistic society, you create life with the person that you love so that you can have a wonderful family living in a country cottage with white picket fences. Yes, I know that is very stereotypical. but that's the image that has been pasted into our minds. How do we know that if we ever get into that yellow daffodil moment that our lover had true intentions to get us there and not just for the sex? People are sick and twisted in this society, so yes, this can happen!
How do we know that we aren't being used and that the person that is using us decides to do it with love? How do we truly know if someone is being honest with us when there is so much dishonesty in this society?
Alright, enough of that. I just had to get that off my chest. If it doesn't make sense, don't worry about it. Again, this has been on my mind and it has nothing to do with me or anyone else.
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I guess I should put in my two cents. I have to say that I have truly only been in love with someone once. I truly mean this. It was very hard to let down all my defenses and allow somone into my life so completely. I was scarred and resistent at first that it put a hinderence to the growth of our relationship. As I let things go and found how much she supported and stood by me no matter what I saw how easy it can be to love someone and be loved.
Now I admit I view love and sex as different entities. Even though I loved and was in love with this woman. I found myself attracted to and lusting for other women, not that I ever did anything, but the thought was there. But I realized I cared to much for this person to ever jeopardize things.
I know we are not together anymore but I still love and care for her still. The reason we lost eachother was due to my own insecurities and lack of communication. But we have both moved on and survivied. I wish the best for her and always will. I know she still cares and would be there for me if I needed her but I think we are both happier this way.
I think it can be very easy to love someone for long periods and I think that the fact people do change through time makes things better. Why be with someone who is always that same and predictible. I think too much change to fast can short ciruit a relationship and cause kinks but with open communication of feelings and expression of needs the bonds can remain strong.
Dont confuse happiness with love. I mean watching my transformers movie over and over again will make me happy but it will never show what I consider love. Damn Im weird.
To me that connection varies from person to person, so i wouldn't be unlikely for people to love those who love someone else.
I think is very hard to make that connection between two people.
What i see around me mostly are couple who one person is the one who "loves" and the other the one who is "loved" yet meets certain things just to get the relationship going and stay "happy". They can still be functional, and realize their ideas of a "marriage" or union, however they are not neccesarily in love with one another.
When i say i loved, i usually see all the images of diferent emotions that person made me feel yet i still feel connected to that person.
You can even "love" the past self of person you are currently with, and not really love that person for who he is now, but for who he was.
There are many complications in this.
Good thing you gave this thought, as it is neccesary for us to question things like this, otherwise were are zombie products of our culture.