Boys frustrate me:
He has a subtle way of making me feel like a corner or a chair. A nice little place to go to spend a some free time. A nice little piece of furniture that is pretty and comfortable and easy to move and carry around. I am not a corner or a chair, and neither is he... arms and hearts and opinions and tempers and laughter and things that are meant for sharing...
I'm not seeking a 'boyfriend' under the evil guise that men seem to think a woman is using to trap and steal their souls. (I'm not sure at what point in a man's life the idea of having someone to care about and have care for him becomes a bad thing, but i know that there is some universal event that happens to each man, giving the words "relationship", "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" negative connotations.)
I want to feel comfortable with whatever we have together and I want to know that, even though I don't really know what I ultimately want from life or men or specifically *him*, there might be a possibility for some sort of future happiness. But how can there be a future if the present is always in question and in doubt?
He has a subtle way of making me feel like a corner or a chair. A nice little place to go to spend a some free time. A nice little piece of furniture that is pretty and comfortable and easy to move and carry around. I am not a corner or a chair, and neither is he... arms and hearts and opinions and tempers and laughter and things that are meant for sharing...
I'm not seeking a 'boyfriend' under the evil guise that men seem to think a woman is using to trap and steal their souls. (I'm not sure at what point in a man's life the idea of having someone to care about and have care for him becomes a bad thing, but i know that there is some universal event that happens to each man, giving the words "relationship", "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" negative connotations.)
I want to feel comfortable with whatever we have together and I want to know that, even though I don't really know what I ultimately want from life or men or specifically *him*, there might be a possibility for some sort of future happiness. But how can there be a future if the present is always in question and in doubt?
Stompbox has a good point. Gad, I think back to all the winners my mom used to go for -- it's like she was going out of her way to be unhappy.
Being a guy myself and knowing a lot of guys 25-40, there does seem to be this general fear of being "tied down". I think there's this unwritten myth out there that once women reach a certain age, all they wanna do is settle down and have a family, house, dog -- the works. I do know a few guys that don't feel this way..or do, but also similarly want a family.
Guys also have the ego thing...the more women who find them attractive, the more of a man they are. It's like that with pretty much every species. The alpha male, gets all the chicks, but being an alpha male, he wants to make sure he has options...not only with mates but the option to just pick up and leave.
Ugh, I don't even remember my point anymore. I guess to make a short story long you just have to consider what your needs are and if they're being met. If they're not, move on...there are a ton of other guys/girls out there to meet. I've done the "intimate strangers" relationship before and we came to this mutual realization that it was going nowhere and we'd be better off as "friends" and that the only reason we were still together was probably out of fear of being alone. Even though we parted cordially, we never called each other again.
Ooooh, I missed that you liked Pantera before...did you see the "Behind the Music" feature on VH1? It made we wanna blow the dust off my Pantera albums and thrash my living room. woohooo!