Hello lovelies. I have a question for everyone. In a relationship, is flirting with others ok? Is it situational? Is it ok for one partner to be jealous? Why or why not?
I am finding that men I date eventually leave because of jealousy. Either they don't like my Suicide Girls, modeling, or they can't handle the way I interact with people. I give every man full disclosure of my modeling and warn them that I flirt a lot, but only with people I know are safe to flirt with.
I had social anxiety growing up and was terrified of people. A few years ago I decided to challenge that head on by becoming a bartender. In doing that I learned that interacting with people through flirting was a really effective form of communication for me that didn't trigger my anxiety (and it helped with the tips I received). This is how I communicate with nearly every person, and by flirting I don't mean everything has sexual undertones. I use flirting as a way to cheer people up, to get them to laugh or smile, and to bring some positivity and happiness to the conversation, making it light and fun. Men still have a problem with this, they feel I shouldn't be so nice or so outgoing and friendly with other men.
Another problem I seem to have is that I hug everyone. This is how I show people I value them, their time, and their friendship. Yes, a lot of the men I hug have a sexual attraction to me and who knows, some may even get turned on by the physical attention they get from a hug, but does that mean I should stop hugging people? I'm not attracted to them, I'm not creating any sort of sexually charged thoughts or feelings for myself so why should I have to stop being affectionate that way? I wouldn't be able to hug or interact with anyone if I stopped doing that. Why should I have to punish myself for things I have no control over?
Thoughts?
