The day after I posted that it was very hot, it became very unhot. And rainy. I had to go out a lot on Tuesday so I spent most of my day some semblance of soaked. And it sucked cause it made my hair all wavy (like it is naturally - I straighten it when I blowdry it.) This isn't a problem, except that my bangs being wavy just looked silly. But there was no point in fixing them since they'd just get all wet again.
Trying to move my big stuff this weekend. Conflicts ensue as 1) it is prom weekend for my little sister so my mom can only come down on Sunday morning and 2) my boyfriend offered to help me move but his brother will be in town from Arizona. I thought he was going to be here for a week but now he'll only be here for a weekend, so boyfriend wants to spend as much time with him as possible. That and he's more or less babysitting because his brother is not known for his excessive mental capacity and their mom wants to make sure he doesn't do anything dumb. Like get his license revoked. Again.
So yeah. That sucks. Today I found an email in my school mailbox from a girl in my nutrition class. We had just covered STIs and things (except not really, cause basically all we were told is 'use condoms, they're not that scary, oh and abstinence is always best of course') which is my area of expertise. I'm a peer sex educator, and I want to go into sex ed as my career. So I was mildly irritated at the more or less complete lack of information given in the class. Anyway, so I find this email, which encourages 'men to be men' and 'women to help their boyfriends be real men'. How do you do this? By remaining chaste, of course, and visiting this website at pureloveclub.net. Normally I wouldn't link a site so ridiculous but seriously, it infuriated me. Besides the fact that I find it awful and misogynistic that I should save myself for my future husband (when it's very possible that maybe I don't ever want to get married and of course, completely dismissive of various types of couples that CAN'T get married - in a class of 200+, if there isn't a single gay kid, then I am a virgin) the website is just hideous. It's so full of half-truths and downright lies about things relating to sex that it's no fucking wonder why people get so frustrated with trying to figure out real facts about sex and STIs that they just give up and hope for the best.
For example, it tells us that hormonal birth control pills cause abortions if the egg implants into the uterine lining. (Oh, and they don't work 1/5 of the time anyway, apparently. Yep.) The way I see it, if an egg is flushed out of my system while it's still a clump of 16 dividing cells, I don't give a shit. I didn't want it anyway, that's why I'm on the birth control. Or my personal favorite, a true/false kinda quiz. One of the questions is something like 'If I am HIV negative, I do not have the virus.' The answer, of course, is true. If you got tested after the window period (and that's the important part) then your results will be accurate. They say no, because it can take months for HIV to show up. Now, this pisses me off because it's true, HIV can take months to show up. However, the antibodies can form within 2 weeks of infection, and by 3 months after the risk activity, 95% of people will have the antibodies. Within 6 months, 99%. So basically if you think you're at risk, wait 3 months. Take the test. If you're negative, you're very unlikely to have the virus.
Not to mention that STIs aren't ever a 100% transmission rate anyway. Sites like this use scare tactics (condoms don't work 100% all the time on anything, so why even bother?) to make people say 'Well, if they're right, it's not worth it.' Except that with perfect use, condoms are 97% effective. Typical use, 85%. The pill is 92-97% with typical, 99.9% with perfect. The shot, the patch and the ring are nearly impossible to fuck up, they have an effectiveness rate of 99.9%. I'll take that 1 in 1000 shot at getting pregnant. And if you double up with a condom and a hormonal control method? Pretty damn near impossible to get pregnant. And though it's true, condoms are not 100% effective at controlling any STIs (or even some, since herpes and genital warts are skin-to-skin) they're definitely worth it. They can prevent up to 70% chance of infection of the cancer-giving strains of HPV. They're 98% effective at preventing HIV transmission. If you want to take a good stab at protecting yourself, condoms aren't perfect but they're a whole hell of a lot better than nothing.
Of course, all this misinformation is just pushing the agenda of saving yourself til marriage and all that other bullcrap (especially about the evils of pornography, which should make ANY member of this site laugh). It hides under the guise of saving yourself pain by abstaining from sex so you know it's twu wuv. Well, fuck that. In reality, twu wuv has no place. Save yourself til marriage all you want, but what happens when you get a divorce? In those eyes, you are one tainted little bitch cause you are no longer married to the person you boned. I can support the idea that people need to learn sex does not equal love, but anyone with half a brain generally figures that out by the end of college. And not to mention, saving yourself just seems silly to me. Virginity is a huge deal until you lose it. Then it's more like, 'That was it? That's the big deal? You've got to be shittin me.' I'm very glad my days of 'I'm not sure where to put it' 'That sounds funny' 'You want me to do WHAT?' and 'Dude, this hurts' are over with. Seriously. I'd much rather be where I am now, 5 partners and 5 years later, with all my risks of infection and everything.
And with all these scare tactics, of course, nobody eeever mentions testing. Got chlamydia? No problem. Take some antibiotics. It's cleared up within a week. And if you have no STIs, and the person you're currently fucking is only fucking you and they have no STIs (or hell, you can have as many partners as you want as long as you KNOW, not think, KNOW that they have been tested and are STI-free) then there are no problems. You can't catch something that the other person doesn't have.
But anyway. I'm rambling. Can you tell how angry this makes me? It was hard to concentrate during class. But now I've gotta take a shower cause though I don't mind re-initiating the grunge movement, the greasiness of my face says otherwise. And then a meeting at work. I actually don't mind cause 1) I've got approximately 5 hours this week 2) they feed us and 3) I get paid to sit down and talk. Yay.
Trying to move my big stuff this weekend. Conflicts ensue as 1) it is prom weekend for my little sister so my mom can only come down on Sunday morning and 2) my boyfriend offered to help me move but his brother will be in town from Arizona. I thought he was going to be here for a week but now he'll only be here for a weekend, so boyfriend wants to spend as much time with him as possible. That and he's more or less babysitting because his brother is not known for his excessive mental capacity and their mom wants to make sure he doesn't do anything dumb. Like get his license revoked. Again.
So yeah. That sucks. Today I found an email in my school mailbox from a girl in my nutrition class. We had just covered STIs and things (except not really, cause basically all we were told is 'use condoms, they're not that scary, oh and abstinence is always best of course') which is my area of expertise. I'm a peer sex educator, and I want to go into sex ed as my career. So I was mildly irritated at the more or less complete lack of information given in the class. Anyway, so I find this email, which encourages 'men to be men' and 'women to help their boyfriends be real men'. How do you do this? By remaining chaste, of course, and visiting this website at pureloveclub.net. Normally I wouldn't link a site so ridiculous but seriously, it infuriated me. Besides the fact that I find it awful and misogynistic that I should save myself for my future husband (when it's very possible that maybe I don't ever want to get married and of course, completely dismissive of various types of couples that CAN'T get married - in a class of 200+, if there isn't a single gay kid, then I am a virgin) the website is just hideous. It's so full of half-truths and downright lies about things relating to sex that it's no fucking wonder why people get so frustrated with trying to figure out real facts about sex and STIs that they just give up and hope for the best.
For example, it tells us that hormonal birth control pills cause abortions if the egg implants into the uterine lining. (Oh, and they don't work 1/5 of the time anyway, apparently. Yep.) The way I see it, if an egg is flushed out of my system while it's still a clump of 16 dividing cells, I don't give a shit. I didn't want it anyway, that's why I'm on the birth control. Or my personal favorite, a true/false kinda quiz. One of the questions is something like 'If I am HIV negative, I do not have the virus.' The answer, of course, is true. If you got tested after the window period (and that's the important part) then your results will be accurate. They say no, because it can take months for HIV to show up. Now, this pisses me off because it's true, HIV can take months to show up. However, the antibodies can form within 2 weeks of infection, and by 3 months after the risk activity, 95% of people will have the antibodies. Within 6 months, 99%. So basically if you think you're at risk, wait 3 months. Take the test. If you're negative, you're very unlikely to have the virus.
Not to mention that STIs aren't ever a 100% transmission rate anyway. Sites like this use scare tactics (condoms don't work 100% all the time on anything, so why even bother?) to make people say 'Well, if they're right, it's not worth it.' Except that with perfect use, condoms are 97% effective. Typical use, 85%. The pill is 92-97% with typical, 99.9% with perfect. The shot, the patch and the ring are nearly impossible to fuck up, they have an effectiveness rate of 99.9%. I'll take that 1 in 1000 shot at getting pregnant. And if you double up with a condom and a hormonal control method? Pretty damn near impossible to get pregnant. And though it's true, condoms are not 100% effective at controlling any STIs (or even some, since herpes and genital warts are skin-to-skin) they're definitely worth it. They can prevent up to 70% chance of infection of the cancer-giving strains of HPV. They're 98% effective at preventing HIV transmission. If you want to take a good stab at protecting yourself, condoms aren't perfect but they're a whole hell of a lot better than nothing.
Of course, all this misinformation is just pushing the agenda of saving yourself til marriage and all that other bullcrap (especially about the evils of pornography, which should make ANY member of this site laugh). It hides under the guise of saving yourself pain by abstaining from sex so you know it's twu wuv. Well, fuck that. In reality, twu wuv has no place. Save yourself til marriage all you want, but what happens when you get a divorce? In those eyes, you are one tainted little bitch cause you are no longer married to the person you boned. I can support the idea that people need to learn sex does not equal love, but anyone with half a brain generally figures that out by the end of college. And not to mention, saving yourself just seems silly to me. Virginity is a huge deal until you lose it. Then it's more like, 'That was it? That's the big deal? You've got to be shittin me.' I'm very glad my days of 'I'm not sure where to put it' 'That sounds funny' 'You want me to do WHAT?' and 'Dude, this hurts' are over with. Seriously. I'd much rather be where I am now, 5 partners and 5 years later, with all my risks of infection and everything.
And with all these scare tactics, of course, nobody eeever mentions testing. Got chlamydia? No problem. Take some antibiotics. It's cleared up within a week. And if you have no STIs, and the person you're currently fucking is only fucking you and they have no STIs (or hell, you can have as many partners as you want as long as you KNOW, not think, KNOW that they have been tested and are STI-free) then there are no problems. You can't catch something that the other person doesn't have.
But anyway. I'm rambling. Can you tell how angry this makes me? It was hard to concentrate during class. But now I've gotta take a shower cause though I don't mind re-initiating the grunge movement, the greasiness of my face says otherwise. And then a meeting at work. I actually don't mind cause 1) I've got approximately 5 hours this week 2) they feed us and 3) I get paid to sit down and talk. Yay.
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rockoval:
It totally freaks me out when those crazy people stand out side the UNO student center and shout at people. I think it might be the same guy with the cross.
mystic5523:
Man I had tottally forgotten about the dude with the cross, it's been way too long since I've visited my friends in Lincoln. I had forgotten how much I loved the crazies when going to school there acouple of years ago.