okay thanksgiving, and then christmas.
yuck. Here we go with the mothers side, father side, etc, multiple event holiday marathon. What this means is that I have to spend time with my father.
SO far, no step mother. Now that she dislikes all of his living relatives, it kind of makes it easier to avoid her. she's really
.
I think it comes partially from being massively threatened by the fact that she's less than ten years older than me and married to my father.
What you say? a young second wife? Classic- Actually she's surely not the cute young thing. She lookes nearly as unapealing on the outside as she is on the inside.
It's easier now that she hates all his blood. See I was first in line. and for tottally ridiculous psychodrama that she invented as well.
Apparently I was trying to sabotage their relationship by saying things about the past.
Um . right. I did say that he's really homophobic. And kind of conservative. and in AA,
but that is totally, tottally all. I mean- how could she not have known he was in aa- they'd been together for like a year, and his house was fricking packed with literature.
If I had wanted to say something bad- see
I have some exquisite ammunition there-
but I felt it was none of my business, so I din't mention anything that I didn't think would be painfully fricking obvious.
So - basically- I didn't do jack sh*t, but becaus eof the way she freaked out at me, it seemed like maybe I must have said something wrong.
My dad totally bought it.
So now that she hates his sister and cousins it'skind of more obvious. I mean- the one cousin - Jesus Christ- SHe's really inoffensive- she's nice and personable.
Well that's my little rant. My dad's no prize anyway. I wouldn't be thrilled to see him even if he'd married a peach. He totally pretends large chunks of his life never happened. And it's better that way. But it makes it like your talking to some other person, or maybe some dybuk.
zero salvagable in that relationship outside of pretending to be cordial aquantances three or four times a year.
I mean I guess even that is more than some people have.
I never liked the holidays in the first place.
the best is to have a sort of anti-holiday or holiday alternative party with your friends seprately from all the sturm and drang.
just good food, and hanging out and relaxing.
much calmer.
yuck. Here we go with the mothers side, father side, etc, multiple event holiday marathon. What this means is that I have to spend time with my father.
SO far, no step mother. Now that she dislikes all of his living relatives, it kind of makes it easier to avoid her. she's really
.
I think it comes partially from being massively threatened by the fact that she's less than ten years older than me and married to my father.
What you say? a young second wife? Classic- Actually she's surely not the cute young thing. She lookes nearly as unapealing on the outside as she is on the inside.
It's easier now that she hates all his blood. See I was first in line. and for tottally ridiculous psychodrama that she invented as well.
Apparently I was trying to sabotage their relationship by saying things about the past.
Um . right. I did say that he's really homophobic. And kind of conservative. and in AA,
but that is totally, tottally all. I mean- how could she not have known he was in aa- they'd been together for like a year, and his house was fricking packed with literature.
If I had wanted to say something bad- see
I have some exquisite ammunition there-
but I felt it was none of my business, so I din't mention anything that I didn't think would be painfully fricking obvious.
So - basically- I didn't do jack sh*t, but becaus eof the way she freaked out at me, it seemed like maybe I must have said something wrong.
My dad totally bought it.
So now that she hates his sister and cousins it'skind of more obvious. I mean- the one cousin - Jesus Christ- SHe's really inoffensive- she's nice and personable.
Well that's my little rant. My dad's no prize anyway. I wouldn't be thrilled to see him even if he'd married a peach. He totally pretends large chunks of his life never happened. And it's better that way. But it makes it like your talking to some other person, or maybe some dybuk.
zero salvagable in that relationship outside of pretending to be cordial aquantances three or four times a year.
I mean I guess even that is more than some people have.
I never liked the holidays in the first place.
the best is to have a sort of anti-holiday or holiday alternative party with your friends seprately from all the sturm and drang.
just good food, and hanging out and relaxing.
much calmer.
just good food, and hanging out and relaxing.
much calmer."
This is it, you're right. The family stuff never goes away, mutates into those predictable minutes, the time with friends and real loved ones is the time for celebration. I have a solstice party every year for just that reason... leave the trappings of christianity and commercialism behind, and celebrate the return of the light to the sky, growing longer daily.
Something I can believe in.
Good luck with the folks, and the season.
Hope that something which brings you happiness and gratitude comes your way on the silly holiday. Something just for you, so you can celebrate in your own way. *stari wishing there was a "hugs" icon*