Urrrrgh.
Really pissed off. So here I go on my rant.
So Sam calls me at work and tells me that he's going to drop by, which is no problem, but he usually doesn't just drop by to see me at work unless he has something he wants to talk to me about. So he gets there, and it turns out, one of his friends, Kennedy, asked to move in with us. Furthermore, he also asked that, if he does move in with us, his girlfriend, who's 17 and has problems with her family, be given a key.
This would help GREATLY with the money part, but that is the ONLY redeeming quality of this plan.
Point One: Kennedy doesn't like me. For no reason at all. He never even gave me a chance. I don't feel anything for him, except that when I'm around him, I feel kind of uncomfortable and very out of place, and almost like I'm intruding on his and Sam's time together. He's very strangely possessive of his friends, his favorite saying being "Bros before hos." Which I would maybe understand if I ate up all of Sam's time, but I don't, and I have never had a problem with him going out with "the boys". Shit, I've even said things to him like "You haven't hung out with your friends in awhile. Why don't you go do that tonight?" I don't want to feel stressed out and out of place in my own home.
Point Two: Kennedy lives a rather different lifestyle from me and Sam. He ALWAYS has people over, and he smokes a ton of pot. One of the reasons I moved out of one place I lived was because, especially since I'll be working two jobs, when I come home, I just want to be able to kick back in privacy and chill out. Won't be able to do that if he's there with five different guys.
Point Three: There will be tension with a couple and then one person who is friends with ONE of the people. Someone's always going to feel left out. Furthermore, feeling constantly out of place and unwelcome in my own home, I'm going to be in a shitty mood more likely than not, which would probably result in me and Sam fighting, and possibly me moving out because I would be so miserable.
Point Four: he asked for a key for his girlfriend. Also in one of the places I used to live, I moved out because of a situation that started like this. I originally moved in with two of my girlfriends. They gave their boys keys, and these guys started slowly but surely moving in. Without paying any rent, for food, or bills. And I got pissed off that I was essentially helping pay for two people to live somewhere for free when I was barely scraping by myself.
And in arguement of him moving in, there is ONE point...
Point One: I am really struggling for money to afford the first month in this place, because I have to move out of my current place a bit sooner than I thought I had to.
So what would you do?
Really pissed off. So here I go on my rant.
So Sam calls me at work and tells me that he's going to drop by, which is no problem, but he usually doesn't just drop by to see me at work unless he has something he wants to talk to me about. So he gets there, and it turns out, one of his friends, Kennedy, asked to move in with us. Furthermore, he also asked that, if he does move in with us, his girlfriend, who's 17 and has problems with her family, be given a key.
This would help GREATLY with the money part, but that is the ONLY redeeming quality of this plan.
Point One: Kennedy doesn't like me. For no reason at all. He never even gave me a chance. I don't feel anything for him, except that when I'm around him, I feel kind of uncomfortable and very out of place, and almost like I'm intruding on his and Sam's time together. He's very strangely possessive of his friends, his favorite saying being "Bros before hos." Which I would maybe understand if I ate up all of Sam's time, but I don't, and I have never had a problem with him going out with "the boys". Shit, I've even said things to him like "You haven't hung out with your friends in awhile. Why don't you go do that tonight?" I don't want to feel stressed out and out of place in my own home.
Point Two: Kennedy lives a rather different lifestyle from me and Sam. He ALWAYS has people over, and he smokes a ton of pot. One of the reasons I moved out of one place I lived was because, especially since I'll be working two jobs, when I come home, I just want to be able to kick back in privacy and chill out. Won't be able to do that if he's there with five different guys.
Point Three: There will be tension with a couple and then one person who is friends with ONE of the people. Someone's always going to feel left out. Furthermore, feeling constantly out of place and unwelcome in my own home, I'm going to be in a shitty mood more likely than not, which would probably result in me and Sam fighting, and possibly me moving out because I would be so miserable.
Point Four: he asked for a key for his girlfriend. Also in one of the places I used to live, I moved out because of a situation that started like this. I originally moved in with two of my girlfriends. They gave their boys keys, and these guys started slowly but surely moving in. Without paying any rent, for food, or bills. And I got pissed off that I was essentially helping pay for two people to live somewhere for free when I was barely scraping by myself.
And in arguement of him moving in, there is ONE point...
Point One: I am really struggling for money to afford the first month in this place, because I have to move out of my current place a bit sooner than I thought I had to.
So what would you do?
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Who's name is the lease in?
You need to advise Sam that this is a bad idea.. all around and not one that you feel comfortable with. If he cares about you, he will take your feelings into consideration.. he should see how the friend treats you and that should be all he needs to see your point of view.
This is not without saying that having a 17 year old around with drugs is nothing but trouble. Sadly, pot in the house, even if it is not yours, *should* anything happen.. could put you in a situation you don't want in.
I don't see any compromise for this. Your house is your safe place.. you don't need to be moving in some person that makes you uncomfortable..and your boy should understand this without much discussion.
Good luck sweetie.. feel free to email me if you need to:
suicidestacie@hotmail.com