Marriage these days is about the most ridiculous thing ever.
I love three people in this world unconditionally: my mom, my dad and my nephew Ben. I love other people very much, but there are things these other people could do to make me not love them. Not that I plan on that, or that these people would do that. My only point is - those aforementioned three people are the only people who could piss me off to no end day in and day out (and trust me, they have) and get away with it.
When you marry someone - that's how you should feel about them. It's not about being 'in love.' It's not about getting along or about them being funny or intelligent or a good conversationalist. It's about loving and respecting people even when you hate them. Loving people even when you don't want to. Loving people enough you would literally die for them. I have NEVER loved anyone I've dated that much - despite the fact that I've been engaged twice.
My friend's engagement ended tonight, and all I can think is, "I will never put myself through that ridiculousness again unless I am 100 percent sure." I don't know if that will ever happen. I am not opposed to the idea; just very leery.
I have learned so much. I wish I could go back and talk to my 16-year-old self.
I love three people in this world unconditionally: my mom, my dad and my nephew Ben. I love other people very much, but there are things these other people could do to make me not love them. Not that I plan on that, or that these people would do that. My only point is - those aforementioned three people are the only people who could piss me off to no end day in and day out (and trust me, they have) and get away with it.
When you marry someone - that's how you should feel about them. It's not about being 'in love.' It's not about getting along or about them being funny or intelligent or a good conversationalist. It's about loving and respecting people even when you hate them. Loving people even when you don't want to. Loving people enough you would literally die for them. I have NEVER loved anyone I've dated that much - despite the fact that I've been engaged twice.
My friend's engagement ended tonight, and all I can think is, "I will never put myself through that ridiculousness again unless I am 100 percent sure." I don't know if that will ever happen. I am not opposed to the idea; just very leery.
I have learned so much. I wish I could go back and talk to my 16-year-old self.
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i love you
sorry edit to add i don't want to get married never have i don't need a pice of paper that tells me i loves someone
[Edited on Oct 30, 2004 10:48AM]