More and more I feel like my parents would prefer I didn't come around. Its not because they hate me but because the shame they feel for not being able to provide more. When I was younger, even until about 2-3 years ago, they were able to pay all my bills and buy me anything and everything I could ever think of to want or need. 3 years and 2 major surgeries later, they're still financially recovering. Its to the point where if I don't pay my car insurance on time to them, they have to hound me day and night because the $200 will overdraw their account. On graduation night, they looked at me with sad eyes, full of disgrace, because of their inability to buy me the house they had promised years ago.
Last night instead of big smiles, warm hugs and wads of $20 bills crammed into my purse when I wasn't looking, I was greeting with dismal half grins and blatant lack of physical contact. They flat out avoid my 18-year sister because of the pain it causes them to not be able to help her pay her college tuition. Rhetorically speaking, how do you tell someone you love him or her unconditionally without it sounding so clich??
Last night instead of big smiles, warm hugs and wads of $20 bills crammed into my purse when I wasn't looking, I was greeting with dismal half grins and blatant lack of physical contact. They flat out avoid my 18-year sister because of the pain it causes them to not be able to help her pay her college tuition. Rhetorically speaking, how do you tell someone you love him or her unconditionally without it sounding so clich??
you dont.
but...the thing is...to tell them anyway.
to often the only time we can say these things is when its too late.
Much better to say it...and have it sound weird....and then when it counts...they will know.
i know it was rhetorical...but that never stops me from giving advice