Ugh, I have to make a big decision and I have to make it quickly.
Some of you might know this already, but I'll recap.
I live in an apartment with two roommates, Sara and Margaret. The lease is in Sara's name and Margaret and I sublet from her. Margaret and I will have lived here a year in July. A couple of months ago Margaret told me that she wanted to move out (because she wasn't really getting along with Sara) and she asked me to move with her.
We started looking for a new place together a couple of weeks ago and we gave Sara our 30-day notice. In the meantime Sara has been showing our rooms to potential new roommates. Yesterday, Sara found someone to move into Margaret's room. I met her today, She seems very nice (and extremely attractive -- I know what you are thinking. and no, I've learned my lesson -- I'm not going to hook up with anymore roommates!!)
Last weekend Margaret and I had a falling out (see old journals if you interested) and Tuesday she sent me an e-mail saying that we probably shouldn't live together. She hasn't said a word to me since Sunday, so I'm assuming we aren't going to be moving together. The problem is that I now have nowhere to live and no one to live with. Sara told me a couple of days ago that I could stay here if I wanted or maybe I could move in with her sister. It was a big relief for me, and she was very understanding regarding my situation.
Unfortunately, Sara found someone who wants my room tonight and he needs a decision right away. So here are my options:
1) Move with Margaret. This really isn't an option as she doesn't want to live with me, and I know it would be a very bad idea anyways. I putting it here anyways because it is a slim possibility.
2) Find my own place. This also isn't really an option as I just started a new job and I don't really have time or energy to find a place I like by July 1. Also, I have 2 cats and it makes it hard to find roommates that would take me and my cats and I can't afford to get a place by myself.
3) Stay with Sara. Sara wants me to sign a new one-year lease which means I would be locked into staying here for another year. That would automatically rule out moving with Margaret (which is probably a good thing to be ruled out). The big issues with staying here are the fact that I don't really like the neighborhood so much (ugh, Sullivan Square) and the fact that my 2 cats don't get along with Sara's cat. The cat issue is the biggest one. We have to keep our cats separated at all times with either hers or mine locked in a separate rooms. We have considered getting an animal behavior specialist in but Sara doubts it will work. If it weren't for the cats, Sara would definitely want me to stay. As of now, it seems like she is pushing me towards option 4.
4) Move across the street to live with Sara's little sister who happens to be looking for a roommate. The advantage to that would be that she will let me stay as long or as short as I like, so I could move there and then in a couple of months when I have more time, I could look for my own place. Also it keeps option 1 open in the future if Margaret decides that she wants to talk to me again (and I want to talk to her). The downside is that it means I'll have to move twice and that I don't really know or feel that comfortable with Sara's sister. Sara is very different than me in terms of our interests and hobbies but in other ways we are very similar. Sara's sister is even more different than me than Sara is. She told Sara that she'd love to live with me though, which I admit, I'm a little surprised about - maybe we'd get along, I dunno. Also, it is still in the same neighborhood. It's literally right across the street.
5) This is the option that I'd want. It would be: stay where I am with Sara for a couple of months until I am ready to move out. Unfortunately, Sara doesn't like this option at all. She is tired of looking for roommates and wants to make a decision now, since she found a new roommate that is good enough and he needs a decision post haste.
I don't know what to do. It seems right now that its going to be option 4, but its really tough to give up my room and its lovely cloud painting that I did on the walls. It's tough to give up this place which I like so much and to lose both Sara and Margaret, both of whom have been great friends for the past year (well, ok, its debatable about Margaret).
Some of you might know this already, but I'll recap.
I live in an apartment with two roommates, Sara and Margaret. The lease is in Sara's name and Margaret and I sublet from her. Margaret and I will have lived here a year in July. A couple of months ago Margaret told me that she wanted to move out (because she wasn't really getting along with Sara) and she asked me to move with her.
We started looking for a new place together a couple of weeks ago and we gave Sara our 30-day notice. In the meantime Sara has been showing our rooms to potential new roommates. Yesterday, Sara found someone to move into Margaret's room. I met her today, She seems very nice (and extremely attractive -- I know what you are thinking. and no, I've learned my lesson -- I'm not going to hook up with anymore roommates!!)
Last weekend Margaret and I had a falling out (see old journals if you interested) and Tuesday she sent me an e-mail saying that we probably shouldn't live together. She hasn't said a word to me since Sunday, so I'm assuming we aren't going to be moving together. The problem is that I now have nowhere to live and no one to live with. Sara told me a couple of days ago that I could stay here if I wanted or maybe I could move in with her sister. It was a big relief for me, and she was very understanding regarding my situation.
Unfortunately, Sara found someone who wants my room tonight and he needs a decision right away. So here are my options:
1) Move with Margaret. This really isn't an option as she doesn't want to live with me, and I know it would be a very bad idea anyways. I putting it here anyways because it is a slim possibility.
2) Find my own place. This also isn't really an option as I just started a new job and I don't really have time or energy to find a place I like by July 1. Also, I have 2 cats and it makes it hard to find roommates that would take me and my cats and I can't afford to get a place by myself.
3) Stay with Sara. Sara wants me to sign a new one-year lease which means I would be locked into staying here for another year. That would automatically rule out moving with Margaret (which is probably a good thing to be ruled out). The big issues with staying here are the fact that I don't really like the neighborhood so much (ugh, Sullivan Square) and the fact that my 2 cats don't get along with Sara's cat. The cat issue is the biggest one. We have to keep our cats separated at all times with either hers or mine locked in a separate rooms. We have considered getting an animal behavior specialist in but Sara doubts it will work. If it weren't for the cats, Sara would definitely want me to stay. As of now, it seems like she is pushing me towards option 4.
4) Move across the street to live with Sara's little sister who happens to be looking for a roommate. The advantage to that would be that she will let me stay as long or as short as I like, so I could move there and then in a couple of months when I have more time, I could look for my own place. Also it keeps option 1 open in the future if Margaret decides that she wants to talk to me again (and I want to talk to her). The downside is that it means I'll have to move twice and that I don't really know or feel that comfortable with Sara's sister. Sara is very different than me in terms of our interests and hobbies but in other ways we are very similar. Sara's sister is even more different than me than Sara is. She told Sara that she'd love to live with me though, which I admit, I'm a little surprised about - maybe we'd get along, I dunno. Also, it is still in the same neighborhood. It's literally right across the street.
5) This is the option that I'd want. It would be: stay where I am with Sara for a couple of months until I am ready to move out. Unfortunately, Sara doesn't like this option at all. She is tired of looking for roommates and wants to make a decision now, since she found a new roommate that is good enough and he needs a decision post haste.
I don't know what to do. It seems right now that its going to be option 4, but its really tough to give up my room and its lovely cloud painting that I did on the walls. It's tough to give up this place which I like so much and to lose both Sara and Margaret, both of whom have been great friends for the past year (well, ok, its debatable about Margaret).
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I think in the long run it probably is the best choice as it gives me a chance to find a place I will like and with people I like. I am still concerned, though, that my cats will make it hard to find a place to live.
Even though its over and done with, I'm still stressed about my decision, though. Everything that has happened this week has it made it tough for me to think clearly. I wish I didn't take things so seriously. It truly has been the worst week ever.
Taking things too seriously is one of my issues too. This most recent move of mine has aught me to be a bit more relaxed. Maybe this move can do the same for you