Sex Life
So I'm not gonna lie. I don't have friends. I have coworkers who are work friends but outside of work. None. Kind of sad if you ask me. I did not have any better place to talk about something personal. I find people here to be very nice and very generous with advice. I really do need everyones advice.
Well here goes. Let us dip ourselves in my very personal life.
Lately I have been noticing more and more that my boyfriend of 2.5 years hasn't been there for me if you know what I mean. (sexually if you don't know what I mean) ha ha. These past couple nights when we do the dirty. It seems so routine. I try to spice it up. Yet it just doesn't work. I feel as though I am only here for his pleasure. Well what about mine.
For this same reason about a year and half ago I cheated on him. With a guy that I dated a little before we got together. My boyfriend found out in a way no one person should ever find out. By accident. I mistakenly sent him a text message telling him all. The message was intended for my close friend at the time. She had known about the situation from the get go. So in the midst of breaking up with my boyfriend he found out. I know to this day the very reason that I cheated.
So now I find myself in a very similar situation. Lack of emotional and sexual connection in my relationship. This time around I want to be true to my boyfriend instead of looking for goodies else where.
I don't know what to do and it makes me very sad. Someone please give me some good advice.
EDIT: I have confronted him about how I feel. All I got from it was a pair of D&G sunglasses.
So I'm not gonna lie. I don't have friends. I have coworkers who are work friends but outside of work. None. Kind of sad if you ask me. I did not have any better place to talk about something personal. I find people here to be very nice and very generous with advice. I really do need everyones advice.
Well here goes. Let us dip ourselves in my very personal life.
Lately I have been noticing more and more that my boyfriend of 2.5 years hasn't been there for me if you know what I mean. (sexually if you don't know what I mean) ha ha. These past couple nights when we do the dirty. It seems so routine. I try to spice it up. Yet it just doesn't work. I feel as though I am only here for his pleasure. Well what about mine.
For this same reason about a year and half ago I cheated on him. With a guy that I dated a little before we got together. My boyfriend found out in a way no one person should ever find out. By accident. I mistakenly sent him a text message telling him all. The message was intended for my close friend at the time. She had known about the situation from the get go. So in the midst of breaking up with my boyfriend he found out. I know to this day the very reason that I cheated.
So now I find myself in a very similar situation. Lack of emotional and sexual connection in my relationship. This time around I want to be true to my boyfriend instead of looking for goodies else where.
I don't know what to do and it makes me very sad. Someone please give me some good advice.
EDIT: I have confronted him about how I feel. All I got from it was a pair of D&G sunglasses.
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I'd have to agree. You have to tell him.
There's not much other choice or you may end up on the same path again.
At least if you discuss it, you may be able to come up with some collective ideas (which could be fun!)
If he's smart, he'll bring some zest back to the table, how could he not when he has someone like you as his girlfriend?...
Good luck!
XOXO
Sometimes you have to be really blunt with men - they're dumb like that.