What's happening SG land? Long time no post, mainly because I'm pretty sure no one really reads this. If someone does, let me know x.x So I'm in El Paso, TX, stationed at Ft. Bliss, and I really can admit that this place is kind of growing on me. My time here will be interesting, which is an interesting thought.
Now for some, how could you say, like running into a wall.
So there is a girl that I met a few weeks ago, and it's been a good friendship so far. Now the reason it's been a friendship and nothing more, even though I like her, and I can tell she likes me (she also said it) is because she is, I guess bi-sexual, but more gay then straight. All of her serious relationships so far have been with women, and she has said that she wouldn't know how to be in a relationship with a guy, which is why it's been that way so far. Now, my question to anyone that reads this, or to myself, is, should I just suck it up and stay friends with her or try to push an actual relationship and see what happens?
Now here is where I go devil's advocate on myself.
Now for the friend aspect: We get along really well, she does trust me, and I do trust her, we have a lot of the same interests when it comes to beer and cigars, and we have tons of fun when we are out.
With all of that stuff, everything will change if we get into a relationship, and I don't want it to.
Now the relationship angle: I want to have something more with her, but I know that it would never work out as a marriage, and there are quite a few things about her that I don't understand and can't tolerate on a regular basis.
Those things that I could never really tolerate in a relationship don't bother me in the friendship. Now I'm pretty sure I've already come to the decision that mostly anyone that reads this might come to, but I want to get a third party un-biased opinion from someone.
Let me have it.
Now for some, how could you say, like running into a wall.
So there is a girl that I met a few weeks ago, and it's been a good friendship so far. Now the reason it's been a friendship and nothing more, even though I like her, and I can tell she likes me (she also said it) is because she is, I guess bi-sexual, but more gay then straight. All of her serious relationships so far have been with women, and she has said that she wouldn't know how to be in a relationship with a guy, which is why it's been that way so far. Now, my question to anyone that reads this, or to myself, is, should I just suck it up and stay friends with her or try to push an actual relationship and see what happens?
Now here is where I go devil's advocate on myself.
Now for the friend aspect: We get along really well, she does trust me, and I do trust her, we have a lot of the same interests when it comes to beer and cigars, and we have tons of fun when we are out.
With all of that stuff, everything will change if we get into a relationship, and I don't want it to.
Now the relationship angle: I want to have something more with her, but I know that it would never work out as a marriage, and there are quite a few things about her that I don't understand and can't tolerate on a regular basis.
Those things that I could never really tolerate in a relationship don't bother me in the friendship. Now I'm pretty sure I've already come to the decision that mostly anyone that reads this might come to, but I want to get a third party un-biased opinion from someone.
Let me have it.
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cadavre:
Don't risk losing her as a friend...and maybe you can..teach her how to be in a relationship with a guy...without actually being in the relationship
senpai:
is it possible for yall to have a casual relationship? Were you can be intimate but not serious?