Wednesday Jan 21, 2009

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Ok. I haven't written anything here in a while.
Sorry kids, I've been crazy busy with the most ridiculous schedule EVER.

But today I had a minor breakdown and it was the kind of thing that made me feel the need to blog for opinions.

So here's the thing: My housemate wants to buy a second house. It's a good thing. It gets him into a different house and it gives me the bigger room at the current house. So he asked me if I knew anyone who might want to rent a room for $300 a month, which of course I do. But I mentioned it to my boy (the first time it was mentioned a month ago). Mentioned it because he's still stuck living with his mom right now and he hates it and he wants to move out of there. But he keeps talking about how if we just shared a room, it would only be $150 a month or whatever. We've been dating for almost 5 months. To me, that's not long enough to be discussing living together. So I told him today that it was something that made me nervous and that I wasn't comfortable with him talking about it, and he got upset. Basically he doesn't understand my point of view, even when I tried to explain that it's in part from getting burned in the past, and he just said something about not being like my ex and whatever, but it really upset me that he didn't seem to get it.

Am I being stupid or is he expecting too much too soon?


Hopefully at least some of that makes sense to someone other than me. whatever
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jhay:
It makes tons of sense to me. Is the other room for rent in the house you're in, or the *new* house..? I mean, even if its in the new house you two would live closer to each other I imagine.. and thats a good thing when you figure how much you work and how little you sleep.. And, you both likely have enough stuff that you don't want to move into a "room" together.. If nothing else you want to save that for when you can move in together into an apartment! If the room for rent is in the house that you're living in NOW, then he should do it simply because it'll be living together but both of you will have your own space. Thats important in any relationship.

He might just be worried about his fluctuating job situation and doesn't want to be stuck trying to come up with 300 every month.

But two people sharing a rented room? Its not enough space. Physically or mentally.. I think.
morningstar:
Five months is wayyy to soon to move in together. Has he ever lived on his own? If not then its a big no! He'll just treat the place like his moms house and think you'll do all the cooking, cleaning and Laundry.

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