So...it was a incredibly long day today. Seeing how I didn't get much sleep last night probably had something to do with it.
So, it's about 10:30 pm and my phone rings and it's a friend of mine I have known since I dunno...the 4th grade or something. She lives in Savannah, Ga., and we keep in touch through text, email and phone..about twice of so a month. She's a really terrific person, but she's been going through a hard time lately. Her family (mom, dad, brother) are pretty screwed up individuals and about a year ago..her husband walked out on her.
So she calls and wants to catch me up on all the going ons in the past month. I knew part of the story already, she traveled with her mom, dad, brother (and his wife and kids) and her daughter to see her grandparents. And the trip didn't go well, her brother is a major douche bag prick and likes to treat her like a dog. Her parents and family, don't want to make waves so the let him treat her like this. So she was pretty upset by this fact. Then she gets back home..where she is under the belief that her and her husband are working out their "problems" and trying to build their marriage back into something meaningful. When apparently his daughter from a previous marriage shows up at my friends house..while he's there and lays down a bomb. That he's been telling her and her family..what a horrible person my friend is..and that she's a cunt and he has no plans on working anything out with her. Which as you can imagine comes as a big surprise for my friend. So she packed his stuff up and sent him on his way. So I was up until about 3 in the morning talking with her and letting her vent.
She's a really beautiful and awesome individual. But I think she learned early on..to allow people to treat her like dirt and to bend over backwards, be accomendating to, and accept how people treat her. Growing up..I can't count the number of time..I stopped her brother from beating the shit out of her, or gotten in face of one of her boyfriends for spreading "locker room" talk about her, or watched her accept as guys treated her like she was 2nd class or came in 2nd place to something or someone else.
It's a shame that it's taken this long for her to find her voice and stand up for herself. My advice was to her was it's time for her to be selfish. Not in the sense of being rude or mean, or making it all about her. But, in the sense that she needs to focus more on what makes her happy, is best for her emotionally, mentally, and spiritually..than she needs to be worried about forgiving, supporting, or putting up with a douchebage asshole(s). I try to be a positive influence for her..cause all the other men that have been in her life..have been assholes. So, I planning a trip up there...and taking my niece with me..so she can play with her daughter..and I'm going to help fix something at her house. Ugh...thinking about how guys..can find someone great..and treat them life shit..is mind blowing to me. I can't find a date to save my life,. but find a douchebag..and there is a girlfriend not far behind.
I hope she stays awake..keeps away from her asshole brother (which reminds me a song by Bush) and divorces her scum bag husband..who isn't worth the air he breathes. I don't her..that life is too short to come in 2nd place to anyone or anything in a relationship. Either you are the in it together..and there for one another..or it's just a game.
Well..anyways..I'll gladly lose some sleep to help out a friend who needs to vent.
So, it's about 10:30 pm and my phone rings and it's a friend of mine I have known since I dunno...the 4th grade or something. She lives in Savannah, Ga., and we keep in touch through text, email and phone..about twice of so a month. She's a really terrific person, but she's been going through a hard time lately. Her family (mom, dad, brother) are pretty screwed up individuals and about a year ago..her husband walked out on her.
So she calls and wants to catch me up on all the going ons in the past month. I knew part of the story already, she traveled with her mom, dad, brother (and his wife and kids) and her daughter to see her grandparents. And the trip didn't go well, her brother is a major douche bag prick and likes to treat her like a dog. Her parents and family, don't want to make waves so the let him treat her like this. So she was pretty upset by this fact. Then she gets back home..where she is under the belief that her and her husband are working out their "problems" and trying to build their marriage back into something meaningful. When apparently his daughter from a previous marriage shows up at my friends house..while he's there and lays down a bomb. That he's been telling her and her family..what a horrible person my friend is..and that she's a cunt and he has no plans on working anything out with her. Which as you can imagine comes as a big surprise for my friend. So she packed his stuff up and sent him on his way. So I was up until about 3 in the morning talking with her and letting her vent.
She's a really beautiful and awesome individual. But I think she learned early on..to allow people to treat her like dirt and to bend over backwards, be accomendating to, and accept how people treat her. Growing up..I can't count the number of time..I stopped her brother from beating the shit out of her, or gotten in face of one of her boyfriends for spreading "locker room" talk about her, or watched her accept as guys treated her like she was 2nd class or came in 2nd place to something or someone else.
It's a shame that it's taken this long for her to find her voice and stand up for herself. My advice was to her was it's time for her to be selfish. Not in the sense of being rude or mean, or making it all about her. But, in the sense that she needs to focus more on what makes her happy, is best for her emotionally, mentally, and spiritually..than she needs to be worried about forgiving, supporting, or putting up with a douchebage asshole(s). I try to be a positive influence for her..cause all the other men that have been in her life..have been assholes. So, I planning a trip up there...and taking my niece with me..so she can play with her daughter..and I'm going to help fix something at her house. Ugh...thinking about how guys..can find someone great..and treat them life shit..is mind blowing to me. I can't find a date to save my life,. but find a douchebag..and there is a girlfriend not far behind.
I hope she stays awake..keeps away from her asshole brother (which reminds me a song by Bush) and divorces her scum bag husband..who isn't worth the air he breathes. I don't her..that life is too short to come in 2nd place to anyone or anything in a relationship. Either you are the in it together..and there for one another..or it's just a game.
Well..anyways..I'll gladly lose some sleep to help out a friend who needs to vent.