I need help. Or more specifically, my best friend in the whole world needs help.
She met this dude last fall, fell fast for him, and moved out to New York to start a life with him.
Right. Some life.
She has been MISERABLE this whole time.
He belittles her, he yells at her, he lies to her, he twists everything around and gives her guilt trips, he cheats on her..
Basically this guy is a TOTAL SCUMBAG.
She caught him cheating about a month ago and broke it off~ bUT she stayed living with him (financially it's been a hard journey for her also~ one shitty job after the other).
So now, it's been a month, she should be living with someone else or BACK HOME in San Diego by now, but no.
She's still calling herself his girlfriend, and talking about how she loves everything about him except that he's shady and makes her feel like shit about herself (EXCEPT? how great IS this guy in bed, anyway?!)..
He's still talking about how she owes him all this money for him letting her stay with him all this time (hello? Am I the only one who thinks if she moved across the fucking country to be with him because he said he loved her, that that love should carry over into paying for basic survival if necessary, and doing it happily?)..
Right now she's in town working the X games with him. Then they're coming back to SD... until HE's ready to go back... she says it's all up to him because she quit her job out there...
WHY should it be up to him? I told her she could totally find someone decent to help her out and let her stay somewhere free til she gets on her feet...or that she can find a job in a second out here and she should just stay where she's happy..
She seems like she thinks she's a failure if she comes home...
I just don't know how to remind her how amazing she is..to give her her confidence back...
I DO know I've got to do something. It's intervention time.
I don't know if I will have to go stay out there with her, and get her setup without him, or go out there and help her pack and make her get on a plane home, or hell I'll drive her around SD til she gets a car or WHATEVER...
She's the best friend I've ever had and I canNOT stand seeing her feel like shit about herself and her life anymore. I will seriously do anything I can to help...
Does anyone have any stellar advice for me??
She met this dude last fall, fell fast for him, and moved out to New York to start a life with him.
Right. Some life.
She has been MISERABLE this whole time.
He belittles her, he yells at her, he lies to her, he twists everything around and gives her guilt trips, he cheats on her..
Basically this guy is a TOTAL SCUMBAG.
She caught him cheating about a month ago and broke it off~ bUT she stayed living with him (financially it's been a hard journey for her also~ one shitty job after the other).
So now, it's been a month, she should be living with someone else or BACK HOME in San Diego by now, but no.
She's still calling herself his girlfriend, and talking about how she loves everything about him except that he's shady and makes her feel like shit about herself (EXCEPT? how great IS this guy in bed, anyway?!)..
He's still talking about how she owes him all this money for him letting her stay with him all this time (hello? Am I the only one who thinks if she moved across the fucking country to be with him because he said he loved her, that that love should carry over into paying for basic survival if necessary, and doing it happily?)..
Right now she's in town working the X games with him. Then they're coming back to SD... until HE's ready to go back... she says it's all up to him because she quit her job out there...
WHY should it be up to him? I told her she could totally find someone decent to help her out and let her stay somewhere free til she gets on her feet...or that she can find a job in a second out here and she should just stay where she's happy..
She seems like she thinks she's a failure if she comes home...
I just don't know how to remind her how amazing she is..to give her her confidence back...
I DO know I've got to do something. It's intervention time.
I don't know if I will have to go stay out there with her, and get her setup without him, or go out there and help her pack and make her get on a plane home, or hell I'll drive her around SD til she gets a car or WHATEVER...
She's the best friend I've ever had and I canNOT stand seeing her feel like shit about herself and her life anymore. I will seriously do anything I can to help...
Does anyone have any stellar advice for me??