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So. I need my smart friends to tell me how to deal with this.


So. My boyfriend has this best friend. They've been best friends for a coon's age. They're gonna be best friends forever pretty much.

This best friend lived with us for over a year. During that time he and I had many tiffs and explosions. We clashed. When we moved out I was SO happy that I would never have to see him again.

Then I got over it. They were roommate issues and they're over now, and if we ever lived together again it would be much more harmonious. We actually started getting along. I actually was starting to consider him to be a f--f--friend. (This is a big deal for me to say! I hated his guts for a long time.)

Anyway, so everything was cool, we were looking for a two bedroom with him.

Then one night everyone decided to go to Margarita Rocks (I personally despise this bar and the whole scene. blech.) and they needed me to drive. Plus our friend Clara was all gung ho on us going cause one of her firends won some party with free food and she wanted us to take advantage of it.

Anyway I was super sick but I drove anyway and figured Id go in and see if the food was worth not cooking. There was hardly anything left but I grabbed some watermelon and chips and went to sit at the bar and mind my own business.

This bitch sitting next to me turns and sneers at me and says, 'enjoying the free food?' with a huff...I wish I could convey the snottyass tone and look she used...I mean that comment could just be a comment or it could be a bitchyass comment...she made it bitchy to the max. Then she turned back around. That was it. Turn around, rude comment, turn back around. She didn't know who I was, I didn't know who she was.

Don't get me wrong. I can be the biggest bitch I know. But not without reason. I don't make rudeass comments to people I don't know unless they deserve it. Especially if they're just minding their own shit and not hurting me or anyone I know. But that really burned me! Here I was, feelin like crap, just wanting to go home and not bother anyone, and she goes out of her way to make me feel even crappier! What a bitch.

I find out later she's Clara's friend and she's the one who won the 'party'. Ok, so what, there's one more person I never want to see again.

THEN Mike (the best friend) starts bringing the bitch over to hang out like it's nothing! Apparently that night they hooked up, and now they're pretty much sending out wedding invites.

So all my friends are being nice to her! But she still won't even look at me. Grr. I guess I should have bitched to my friends about her being a bitch beforehand, but I was so sick I didn't even think about it til I saw her again.

Anyway it started really getting to me. She fuckin comes over all the time, is really rather stuck up and boring anyway, and my homies are treating her like a princess.

So the other night they were over..We had been having a great time til then. Mike came in, changed the music, and he and bitch took over the couch. Real fun. I was getting really fed up by now and a little buzzed so I started making comments.

It really bugged me that he lets her drive his car all the time. He just met the bitch. You have to understand how Mike is with his stuff. A-N-A-L R-E-T-E-N-T-I-V-E!!!!!!!!!! ESPECIALLY his car. That just shows how much she's gotten under his skin. Anyway so my comment was 'You let that bitch drive you car??' right in front of her.

Then I started thinking that if he's gonna live with us she's gonna be there all the time, and I was all, 'It's gonna suck living with you. You two will be there ALL the time and I won't be just waiting for you to leave like I do now.'

Anyway I kept making little bitchy comments because, well, I was feeling very bitchy!

Eventually Mike asked if the music was bothering me. I said, 'Oh no, it's not the music. It's (and I pointed right at her face) that one. She's a bitch and I don't want her around.'

So they left. And Shawn and I got in a huge fight over me 'flipping out'. (Which I didn't. I was calm. I was just telling it like it was.)

We've been arguing over this ever since. Basically he really wants to live with Mike and I am fine with that, but that bitch is never allowed near me again. I just don't like to put up with that bullshit! Besides, Mike's going to get burned. If she's like that to people she doesn't even know?

So Shawn and I are going to get our own place now. Shawn isn't happy about this. He doesn't want to pay more, understandibly. I'm willing to work more and pay rent though. He says I'm making his relationship with his homie really difficult. I say, not really. Mike can chill whenever. You have a car and an id. so can you. He just can't bring that bitch around me.

So we keep getting into it over this! Shawn swears up and down that it was a fluke and if Mike is ready to marry her she can't be all bad, since Mike never likes girls. I say, how do you know Mike never likes girls? He just never talks to them. He gets drunk in the corner and stares. Just cause she was enough of a whore to be all over him doesn't mean shit to me.

Shawn thinks 'if I just talk to her' it will all be okay. I think, FUCK THAT! I already know I want nothing to do with the bitch. Now you want me to go out of my way to make nice with her? FUCK no. I don't want to make friends. I don't want to smooth things over. I just want her to stay away from me, and we won't have a problem. Shawn doesn't even seem to care that she was a bitch to me. All he seems to care about is making his precious Mikey happy.

Well POOH on that! I don't know what to do. I don't tolerate people treating me like that...If I had been a bitch first or done something bitchy or stupid I would be far more likely to get over it.

What do you guys think??? I need help.