Well, what went so wrong was... some guy playing the usual "nice guy" game to shove me aside and get into her panties. Couple that with brutal health-related stress and a burnout... and shit got REAL. EMT-hospital-surgery-physical rehab real.
And it all restarted like it had started... with me and her in a hospital room, after an idiot had stiffed her on picking her up after a surgery and hospital stay. What's up, "fellow men"? How low do you have to go to leave a girl standing the day she's released? Just because she told you "no sex" and you felt so entitled you actually pulled the slut-shaming card? And he not only didn't pick her up... he trashed her house and left food in her microwave to rot for 3 weeks; this to someone who freezes at the sight of a 6-legged beastie. The removal of the maggot-infested plate and sanitization of the microwave oven is left as an exercise to the reader, along with what I'm gonna do to that idiot once I find him.
Long story short, we gotta stop meeting like this, dear.
So, I'm the good guy again, the cats are fed and watered (and cuddling up to me), and we agreed to be cuddle friends for now and see where this leads once the docs give the green light to resume our slightly active sex life. I'll also take care to reserve hotel rooms that aren't on the ground floor (that or charge for the show). She also showed me a great aircraft spotting show at her home airport; tht was better than make-up sex
Nothing is permanent except change. These 4 days were as crazy as everything with her has been... and will be in the near future, it seems