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My Perfect Girl:

It's been a while since I've weighed in on this topic. So, in no particular order, here it goes: A girl who understands that there's no such thing as perfection. A girl who's as ecstatic as I am to simply be in each other's presence, feeling a profound peace amidst a tremendously chaotic world. She would accept her flaws both changeable and unchangeable. She would be responsible, reliable and considerate, and would sincerely apologize whenever she faltered. She would listen to me despite the topic (within reason), knowing I fully intend to grant her the same respect.

I would admire her for something and grant her respect she has earned. We would inspire each other to be better people - more creative, curious and intelligent people - not just to each other, but to others as well. She would be passionate, compassionate and would care enough to find out the difference if she didn't know it already. Patience and understanding would be high virtues for her, though she'd acknowledge reasonable limitations, especially those inherent in communication. She'd put aside her own possible and certainly understandable jadedness and cynicism to give every person their own clean slate.

She would cherish her life and our life together as much as I. She would fascinate me through her words, actions or simply her very being. She would have well-developed senses of rationale, logic and diplomacy. She would be well-acquainted with the darkness of humankind, thus fortifying her general good will. As cliche as I know it is, she would be my best friend, my best lover and would consistently retain those titles well. We would care for each other selflessly regardless of any title(s) or circumstance(s).

She would be realistic, but would also dream, desire and fantasize and would share them with me. She would be at least similarly as open-minded as I am about many things, especially including politics, religion and sexuality. She would loathe elitism and every other behavior and system that separates and compartmentalizes human beings. She would be open and honest to at least a reasonable extent, as I would be to her.

As far as more superficial desires go, it would be nice to find a girl who's as much into some or several forms of media as I am (ie. music, video games, movies, books, etc.). A girl who, like me, tries exceptionally to find something to like in things that may not appeal to her immediately. A girl who'd like to travel and perhaps live in a few different places during our lives. A girl whose resolve is strong enough to conquer any substance dependency, habit or fear.

I think that's about it for now. I'm sure I could think of other things to add, but those are some fundamentals. They haven't changed very much in over a decade, and yet I still have not been able to maintain a relationship for longer than 7 months. I freely acknowledge that these things mentioned above are seldom ever all found in one person, thus why I've had so many relationships. These are just characteristics of a faceless someone who may or may not be, not any sort of list to which anyone in particular should or should have adhere(d).