Guest columnist Margaret Cho writes....

A lover once looked very dismayed at my Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator -- the Cadillac of sex toys and my true BFF -- and said, "I wish you would lose that thing and I could really make you cum." This was very upsetting to me, for a number of reasons. First of all, what does it mean to "really make you cum?" Is sex without toys somehow more legitimate? If that is the case I am guilty of having bastard orgasms for much of my adult fucking life now.

I love my bastard orgasms! It took me a long time to find my way to them! I have a different kind of setup downstairs. I have never read anything anywhere that showed me how to get off that actually worked. It took many years of trial and error. There were lots and lots of lovers of many genders and shapes and sizes and techniques and styles. I tried workshops and therapists and sex clubs and dominants and submissives and oral geniuses and big cocks and little cocks and fake cocks and no cocks and tantric workshops and anal college and softball games and g-shot finding expeditions and it wasn't until I accidentally misused my back massager that I struck gold!

Since then, my Hitachi and I have been joined at the -- um -- hip, and I love it. They are supposed to have a lifetime guarantee, but I must have been getting more than a lifetime's worth of enjoyment because they tend to burn out on me after a couple of years. No worries because they only cost about $65 retail -- and one of the reasons I spent two years on the board of Good Vibrations is because I would get them for free -- and of course I stocked up!

These marvelous inventions give me earth shattering orgasms, every time -- and the best part about it is that I am now free from the worry of "What if don't cum? What if I can't cum? What if, what if, what if?" It is no longer a concern. I can freely have sex and know that I will be able to get that internal fuse lit that goes to the dynamite that makes it all go bang, bang.

So it really fucks me up when someone, a lover, someone I am supposed to be close with, someone who is supposed to accept all of me, someone who is supposed to love me -- as a lover is supposed to do -- comments that my orgasms are somehow the wrong kind of orgasm.

Why are they wrong? I don't understand. Aren't all orgasms a good thing? Why qualify? What makes one orgasm better than another type of orgasm? Do you assign them to categories after you have them?

I get insecure about myself sexually, because I don't have sex like a porn star. In movies people can cum from just fucking! I wish I could do this because I think I might be a more conventional lay. In erotica and romantic women's literature, people can climax at the same time! I have never done this. I don't know what it would feel like. I might be sad about it, because I really enjoy watching my partner get off and if I was doing so at the same time I feel like I would miss it. But climaxing separately, as I am used to, which I really love, some people think is also missing something.

You can't win! But at least you can cum. If you are like me, and have a unique arrangement in your pants, then don't delay; Get a Hitachi today!

Margaret Cho is currently on a nationwide tour, and will be recording her fifth live DVD (to be released in 2009) at her Long Beach performances at the Terrace Theatre on October 25. Click HERE for ticket info and her full Beautiful Tour schedule.

Is it a sex toy, or is it birth control? That's the question causing enormous outrage throughout the Indian state of Madhya Pradesh in response to a vibrating condom that's being manufactured and marketed by...the government.

Hindustan Latex Limited, a "Government of India Enterprise," launched Crezendo in response to a fall in condom usage. Their goal was to encourage the use of birth control by enhancing its pleasure, and they marketed the product with tag lines like "Crezendo vibrating ring is designed to take you for a 20 minute joyride through the realms of vibrating pleasure," and "It is truly your passport to 'The Republic of Pleasure'."



Critics, who see the product as a sex toy, are furious: contraception is encouraged but sex toys and pornography are forbidden in India. They want the government to ban the sale of Crezendo immediately.

How did the country that gave the world The Kama Sutra get so prudish about sex toys? Attaching a vibrator to a condom doesn't make the contraceptive any less decent or moral--it just makes it that much more enticing to someone who might otherwise not practice safe sex. The Indian government deserves major props for taking this creative approach to birth control and public health. Hindu conservatives should apply for a passport to 'The Republic of Pleasure' and bring a copy of that most famous ancient Indian text along for the 20 minute ride.