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  • TUESDAY AUGUST 31 2010 12:04 AM

A Demand for A Jealousy-Free Existence!

Submitted by nathaliemoody

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Tags: Blog, Relationships, Society, jealousy

by Nathalie Moody

Jealousy. Why was this emotion created in the master-planning of the emotions? There must be some involvement from the devil here. He must get off with twisted satisfaction as the most rational and mature lot of us, struggle to ignore the evilness of this illogical envy! It creeps under our skin and skews are sense of reality. Jealousy can distract us from moving on, moving forward and functioning as a rational human being.

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[Chloe & Vice in Strip Tease]

It is just a mental wiring issue that I am sure could be resolved in this age of science and medical brilliance. Why can’t there be some Survival of the Fittest/ Generational eradication of this unnecessary emotion? We seen this occur. Like the deep water fish that no longer has the once necessary sense of vision since it has been completely unnecessary for survival. This evolutionary process seems very appropriate for something like jealously but this could take too long for humankind. Evil envy only increases stress leading to chronic health conditions like high blood pressure, heart disease, and loneliness. So my challenge to the medical community would be to develop some harmless pill or procedure that effectively deactivates the part of this brain. Results? Quick movement past personal hardships so we can all avoid jealousy-related stress and serious conditions.

I wish we could just experience a methamphetamine rush instead of such ugly distress! When your co-worker is recognized for the team’s hard work and gets the big promotion instead of you – BAM! a rush of pure luscious dopamine. When your current boy crush doesn’t call back and he sends an adoring wall-to-wall FB note to your best friend- Blast! a slam of delicious neurological warmth soars through your veins as you instantly forget the origin of unfounded distress.

But as I move back to reality and face the potential for another stealth bomb slam of envy, I wonder how others have experienced and dealt with episodes of jealousy? I can’t be alone in my stumbles and fumbles to manage the emotional roller coaster of daily life. After a bad break-up or a hurtful discovery of infidelity, how do you cope and move on from the silliness of Jealousy?

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SonOfAPunk

SonOfAPunk

Maple Ridge, BC
January 2006

SEP 08, 2010 12:37 AM

"Time heals all."

As clichéd as that sounds, it helps. It comes automatically. Everyone suffers from an initial emotional response. When something affects you or something you're emotionally invested in, a cognitive response usually comes sometime after the initial emotional response. We get our emotional responses first probably due to some "how does this make me feel and what should I do as soon as possible" fight-or-flight reaction in the brainstuff.

EmoElmo

EmoElmo

Los Angeles, CA
January 2010

SEP 08, 2010 01:01 AM

Is this for real?

Did a 5th grader write this?

This "news" is a joke, right? And the writing too -- that of a 5th grader -- a joke, right?

Harpsong

Harpsong

New Zealand
July 2010

SEP 08, 2010 03:13 AM

ChickMagnet69 said:
Is this for real?

Did a 5th grader write this?

This "news" is a joke, right? And the writing too -- that of a 5th grader -- a joke, right?



Your username - a joke, right?

SnakePlissken

SnakePlissken

Corvallis, OR
December 2002

SEP 08, 2010 05:31 AM

So the message here is that all negative emotions are bad and should be removed via pill or procedure? Bullshit. Negativity is a valid part of the human experience as much as positivity is. How boring would life be if all we felt was a sea of median emotion with no highs and lows? Ever see Equilibrium? And negative emotions can inspire as much as positive. I'm sure plenty of artists and inventors over the years have found inspiration for greatness in their negativity as have plenty of average joe's just looking to do as well for themselves as their neighbors. Rather than chemically neuter ourselves from feeling how about we learn to face up to our emotions, realize what they are and where they came from, learn something from it, and move the fuck on?

LaceyK

LaceyK

Tarrytown, NY
October 2005

SEP 08, 2010 06:58 AM

Ummm..........what?
whateverwhateverwhatever
Do you get a whole free year of SG just for writing something like this?

mydogfarted

mydogfarted

Oakland, NJ
June 2003

SEP 08, 2010 07:26 AM

Read "The Ethical Slut" if you want advice on how to cope with your jealousy.

NakedKittyCat

NakedKittyCat

I'm lost
May 2008

SEP 08, 2010 02:48 PM

I agree its an unnecessary emotion, and it does nothing but cause problems. I'm not talking about myself being jealous here, because I couldn't care less what other people have or do. But when other people are jealous of me, and it ruins a friendship or something along those lines its just plain annoying. Why does everyone care so much what other people have?

motorfirebox

motorfirebox

Pittsburgh, PA
March 2004

SEP 08, 2010 04:21 PM

I don't think it's avoidable. I've dated women with male best friends, and I felt threatened as hell by the best friend. I couldn't help it. I tried to, y'know, hide it, and in two cases the three of us discussed it openly and had a good laugh about it--none of which changed the fact that every time the dude was around I kinda wanted to punch him. I'm still friends with the guy from the last time it happened; he's a great guy and I don't mind him at all... now that I'm not dating the chick he's friends with.

Darke

Darke

Columbia, MO
June 2005

SEP 08, 2010 04:30 PM

News sounds a lot like blog fodder these days.

Morgan

Morgan

SUICIDEGIRL

Illinois, USA

SEP 09, 2010 06:18 AM

All I have to say is:

Maddix

Maddix

HOPEFUL

USA

SEP 10, 2010 12:28 PM

SnakePlissken said:
So the message here is that all negative emotions are bad and should be removed via pill or procedure? Bullshit. Negativity is a valid part of the human experience as much as positivity is. How boring would life be if all we felt was a sea of median emotion with no highs and lows? Ever see Equilibrium? And negative emotions can inspire as much as positive. I'm sure plenty of artists and inventors over the years have found inspiration for greatness in their negativity as have plenty of average joe's just looking to do as well for themselves as their neighbors. Rather than chemically neuter ourselves from feeling how about we learn to face up to our emotions, realize what they are and where they came from, learn something from it, and move the fuck on?



Sign this guy up to re-write this. I couldn't agree more. As someone who struggles with jealousy this news/blog whatever it is was actually kind of offensive. I think it's unhealthy to stuff your emotions, and the last thing anybody needs is a pill to do the trick. I don't mean to be rude, but this is honestly useless.
I second the suggestion of reading The Ethical Slut.

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